October brides-postpone or holding on

Glad to see what other people are doing!

We're 10/16 in northern VA/DC suburbs. Everyone is traveling from out of state. We were already planning a small ceremony, 25 people including my fiance and I. We're going ahead with everything, and we're prepared to adjust should state/local changes be necessary.

At my job, we have to have a health/safety plan for when we reopen, so I'm going to do something similar for our wedding. Everyone invited is immediate family, and we've talked about expectations. No one has flat out said no to attending, so that also gives us hope. We're thinking that at least a month out, everyone will need to get tests, since they take about a week to come back. Then family groups will quarantine together. (We understand that a confirmed case will mean that someone may not be able to go, and everyone seems on board with that). We're going to also plan for custom masks (ie: mother of the bride, etc). We figure that's the best way to incorporate a details while also adding an element of safety. Also, we're prepared to distance family groupings as needed, if it comes to that. Ceremony is outdoors, so that helps as well.

Ultimately, we're taking it one day at a time --- we haven't set any internal deadlines for ourselves. Our vendors, have all been incredibly accommodating, so, if the worst happens, we're ready to make changes. At this moment, I'm feeling confident. If the worst happens, we will do a backyard elopement where we currently live, with the same date, and reschedule a bigger gathering for when we can safely meet!

With it being October 3rd... we are keeping our date in Michigan in hopes this dont get out of control again by that time.. we are having a backyard wedding and reception outdoors. but to make our guest feel safer... we are turning our wedding and reception into a masquerade ... a mask is a mask... surgical mask ( i will never on my wedding day), over the eye masquerade mask whatever mask your comfortable in wearing so we can make everyone feel like they belong. Should be fun

Have you checked with your venue yet? You might be surprised to find out that your decision to delay isn't up to you! I had this nasty surprise when I called my venue, the Springs, and they told me that as long as they could open the doors to a functional building, that they would not allow me to delay my wedding due to COVID19 as it is not considered an "act of God" to trigger the Force Majure contract clause (no matter how restricted they mandate the guest count... and they are currently restricting to half their capacity). My vendors (DJ, etc) are very flexible and reasonably offering to delay (I offer high praise to DJ Connection, whose responsible company president sent out an email stating their support for their customers during this stressful period and outlining their guidelines for delaying). I understand that no business wants to offer a refund or give you your deposit back, but to not allow a delay during a pandemic is socially unconscionable at best and fatally dangerous at worst.

So I am currently left with the option to invite my guests to COVID19 high risk situation in a high risk region or lose my entire venue fee (thousands of dollars). Is anyone else in this situation? How has your venue responded?

Our date was originally scheduled for 10.10.2020 - postponed until 10/7/2021. We made our decision early on and we are glad that we did because there aren't many dates available for 2021 with all the 'originally planned' 2021 weddings and now the postponements. We are happy with our decision and especially now because cases are on the rise in Las Vegas - who knows what is going to happen in the coming months.

Our date was originally May 16, 2020 and we made the decision to postpone to October 09, 2020 back in the beginning of April. We've decided that we aren't postponing it again. We are in Virginia so we are praying that things don't get too crazy with everything opening back up this week. But even if it's just my fiancé, his sister (our officiant) and myself standing in big ol' our venue, we ARE getting in October no matter what. I'm tired of this wedding stress!

What a year to choose to get married...sigh.

Date is 10/2/20 in NYC, but getting closer and closer to just delaying. It sucks because at this point I would just elope or have a super tiny ceremony, but we've already invested so much money into deposits that are not refundable, just transferrable to another date within a year. I'm glad vendors are being that flexible, but at this point I just want to be married and move on with my life. I've tried to keep perspective, but COVID has really taken the fun out of planning everything...

Bit hugs to everyone else going through this.

I'm a 10/3 bride too! We are going forward as of now, (getting married in NH, from L.A.) and are making the final call on September 1, just in case things take a nose dive again. We only planned for 60 guests to begin with, so we thankfully didn't have to make any cuts and are expecting about 55. Total social distancing, masks on at all times when not eating and drinking, distanced tables, 10 people with masks on dance floor at a time, no buffet food whatsoever, (passed hors d'oeuvres and plated dinner/dessert), so we're doing everything we can! We cancelled all other weekend events like rehearsal dinner, welcome party, and day after brunch.

10/10/20 Wedding date and we are still getting married that day no matter what. As of now the wedding is still on with 300+ guests to be invited. I am holding invites as long as possible. I am looking at outdoor party rentals to possibly move the reception outdoors... but Wisconsin in October, you never know what it will be like! I change my mind about 4 times a day and I'm sure it will change constantly until the day of. Part of me thinks just cut the list down for peace of mind, but who knows what October will be like. The reality is that this virus is here to stay and people have to weigh the risks of attending things from now on. It's a vicious cycle of wait and see. This sucks!