October brides-postpone or holding on

View Quoted Comment Will you just go to the JP?

Our wedding is scheduled for 10/17/2020 after postponing from 06/27/2020. We are in upstate NY. I'm hoping we can keep the 10/17/2020 date but now our state has rules for out of town visitors from certain states. My sisters live in one of the states so now I'm worried I won't be able to have them at my wedding.

Not trying to be a downer but we postponed to 10/2/21. We were supposed to get married on 10/10/20. Our family and friends have had our backs throughout the ups and downs so far but once we announced we’re postponing, you could feel the relief. Still very supportive but also less stress. My bridal shower/bachelorette party was to be the weekend of Aug. 8th and my two matrons were so worried about how and truly where to safely have those events. They had postponed planning when COVID started up in March. That was my first indicator that I should reconsider this year. We are doing a small backyard ceremony still on our date but our new date to celebrate with everyone is next year. For those that continue on, I truly want it to work for you and really hope it all blows over by then.

View Quoted Comment We just made the same decision this weekend and we feel SO much better! No more waiting for answers and wondering what will happen.

Mine was 10/11/2020 but postpone to 4/17/2021 . I made the decision a couple of weeks ago. I live in nyc so we are just started phase 3 so I think I made a good decision it . Try not to think about it because it makes me sad that I had to move it

Our date was 10/30/20 and we moved our reception to 10/29/21 for the safety of our family and guests. We decided we are still doing an immediate family only ceremony (2hr duration for ceremony, champagne toast, and photos).


We are in MA so our pandemic is in a bit of a lull, but I’m apprehensive as it starts getting colder and people are indoors more. We are just loosening some restrictions now and allowed up to 25 people at the moment, but I’m still uneasy for that amount of people, nevermind a full wedding. If for some reason it gets bad here again our family only ceremony will be an elopement with just us there as a plan B.
Best of luck with whatever you decide to do! Stay safe! ❤️

We have decided that we are going to move forward with 10/24. We are in Los Angeles, which is a total hot spot, but our ceremony and reception are entirely outside. We figured a large amount of guests will make the decision not to come. But we decided that it would be less work/similar cost to do an outdoor event at our original venue vs. switching to a backyard event.

There have been a ton of tears and so muuch frustration, just wanting to give up on the whole wedding all together. But we are worried that Fall 2021 may still look the same in LA and are ready to start our lives together. Also I was concerned that instead of having COVID anxiety until Oct, I may have the same COVID anxiety for over a year.

October 10th here and as of right now, we are still moving forward with everything. I'm in Indiana and my concerns are peaked but I don't want to wait as we already postponed once due to family matters. I'm really struggling because I feel like a lot of the fun of it has been replaced with worry. It's just kind of disappointing overall.

View Quoted Comment I hear you Ashley. Prayers that everything is smooth sailing when your day approaches.

Lol we are EXACTLY the same! Had postponed from May 4 to October 20, now we are likely to move it. We have a lot of international guests and all of the uncertainty and fear takes the fun out of it! We are most likely going to go up in the mountains and take pictures in our dress and suit on the day we were supposed to get married, to keep the hype alive, have something to look forward to, and save some time for the day of! Deciding between next May or October.... I feel like when kids try to go back to school in August it will be a good indicator of if we are all out of our minds or not lol

View Quoted Comment I appreciate your attitude so much 😊 our date is 10.23.20 and I don't really know what to do...planning on getting married that day no matter what, even if it's us, officiant + witness. Houston wedding doesn't seem like the best idea. I had to call & ask the main hostess for my bridal shower to take it off the calendar & keep it up in the air for now. 😢 Thanks for having such an encouraging attitude!

Our date is 10/11/20 and right now we're planning on continuing as normal. We sent out invitations this week. We are fully prepared to have a smaller guest count, but I'm trying to stay hopeful that it will all work out.

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This is where I'm at! We're doing Halloween weekend in NOLA, which is destination for us, but also a very small wedding, and i just can't bring myself to postpone yet. This is also based on the general consensus from our guests who are almost all younger & healthier, so i'd feel yours out too (before you lose too many deposits) and re-evaluate from there! Good luck, Hun!

View Quoted Comment I'm in more southern Ca. Wedding dat 11/07. We are still moving forward. And if things get worse by Aug then we will cancel. It is just very motivating to continue to plan and purchase stuff with knowing the day might now come.

View Quoted Comment We're right around 175 😬 I recently went to a wedding that had 135 or so and everything was normal. So I'm hopeful everything settles down again before our date!

Our date is 10/10/2020. We were already only planning on having about 35 guests and I was holding out hope that the pandemic would improve by now. Last week, our venue informed us it’s possible the date would be cancelled. We decided to keep the date, but come up with an alternate plan as to where we’re going to get married. We obviously still want family & friends there, but with the new space being smaller we don’t think it’s worth the risk for people to get sick. All the guests will watch the ceremony virtually and we’ll have a reception next year for our 1 year anniversary. I was totally heartbroken for a couple of days, but now that I’m not in fear of our date getting cancelled a month before the wedding I feel so much better!

Our date is 10/24/2020, and we decided today to make the decision to postpone the large reception til next year. Living in Texas, there are just too many risks especially since we are both essential workers (teacher and city worker). We hope to have an intimate family only ceremony on our original date, but we have not made any plans yet. It's been a difficult decision to make, but one we feel is necessary.

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Date twins! We are currently planning as normal but I am starting to worry a lot more now than I was. I went to a wedding on June 20th that had about 135 in attendance and it was completely normal (no masks, dance floor open, etc.) and this makes me hopeful that things will calm down and all be okay by then, but I did reach out to my venue today to see what rescheduling/cancelling looks like too. UGH!

View Quoted Comment !!! Yes it is for sure all case by case. We have officially postponed the wedding for next year. Covid climate has become to intense. We have decided to do a small intimate ceremony on our date this year. We will all hopefully get together next year with friends and family