October brides-postpone or holding on

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Good luck to you all, whatever you do make the most of!

Not an October bride, was supposed to be a December bride, but we postponed. Im in NYC and I based it on the cancellations and modifications that were being made to events that far out. They made modifications to the tree lighting in the city I took that as my signal to postpone. I would say look into how your city is handling things are events around the time of your wedding being cancelled or modified and how are they handling the outbreak. We are doing well now but I don't see that holding indefinitely.

My original date was 6/20/20 but we had to postpone. Now, our new wedding date is 10/10/20. My fiance and I were just talking that maybe we will need to change our plans...again. We have made the decision that we are still getting married on 10/10/20 but have our Happily Ever After celebration next year sometime. I really don't want to postpone our day again.

View Quoted Comment I fear we are going to have to change the date again as well. It's been such a crazy year with the pandemic and I think it's far from over.

If I postpone my 10/11 date I will just lose any passion about this wedding lol I can only imagine my guests would be even more over it if we got legally married then asked them to “celebrate” a year later. All or nothin’

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I agree. This was not the year to have a grand wedding celebration with all your family and friends.

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Agree I am waiting till August too. ours in early Nov.

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I think that is a great idea!

View Quoted Comment This was my dilemma also. But I've moved past this thought. The guests that really want to celebrate will understand and still make plans to attend at a later date. I was all for all or nothing, until my in laws said they wouldn't attend anything this year to protect their health. Then I started to modify my thinking and expectations.
If anything I believe us 2020 couples are in a unique position. There's a possibility my guests will feel so bad about the stress that we have endured that they will be even more genourous on our registry.

Going strong, nothing will stop me trust. NYS bride here and Cuomo is not ruining my wedding. I will be there and whoever shows, shows. Point being a wedding is a day but i'm going for a lifetime and not stopping my plans

I'm feeling the same way! I was so optimistic about our October 9th date until the last couple of weeks. We decided that instead of stressing out every single day from now until October, that we'd postpone our wedding to 2021 .

October 10th - I actually spent Friday contacting our vendors about cancellation policies and such. We have been holding out hope, but talking to our venue we now have a hard and fast deadline to decide what we'll do, August 15th. So after being desolate all weekend at the thought of having spent two years planning for it to be cancelled, we decided to table those thoughts for two weeks then come back to it. Chances are we will be cancelling our venue and cutting our list down to immediate family and under 20 guests so we can still be married on our date. Most of the bigger wedding stuff was to appease family, so it's more the wasted time and energy that is upsetting. We are getting married on October 10th if it's just us and the officiant! Lots of emotional ups and downs about this, but I'm trying to remember just deep breaths and carry on. At the end of it all, I'll be married to the best man I know. And that's what matters to me -- not having 80 people staring at us for a few hours after saying our vows, lol.

View Quoted Comment Agreed!! Do you have any bridesmaids? What are your plans for them?

View Quoted Comment After today things just feel more stressful, I’m trying not to lose it! Now churches are shut down and who knows when they will allow them to open again or how many will be allowed! So many things happening! I’m glad to hear that you are not cancelling, that’s what we have decided too. If it’s just us and the officiant it will happen! I’m okay with a small wedding, but I just don’t want to stress about anyone or us getting sick. I’m praying for all you brides and grooms this year!

I’m still holding out hope for our 10/30/2020 wedding. My guest list is already small (expecting around 75, but maybe less) and I don’t mind the modifications. The recent news in California is making me less certain though. I’m thinking of waiting until end of August to decide if we should postpone to our backup date in April 2021. We are still going to get legally married on our original date, but do the whole wedding celebration next year.

We are getting married 10-10 no matter what! We all have to do what we think is best for us and our loved ones! Regardless of what you decide I hope you have an amazing day and a wonderful life with you and your partner! 💞

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We actually made the decision not to have a wedding party early on in our planning. The aquarium where our ceremony is *supposed* to be held just doesn't really have the space for more than us and an officiant in front of the tank we chose. My best friend is my "MoH" in effect, but she is also our officiant, so she'll still be there! Luckily we don't have to worry about that impact as well!

View Quoted Comment Will you be able to get your money back from the venue?

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That's where our d-day deadline comes in. As long as we cancel 8 weeks out, we get a refund on our deposit. So, we are making our final decision by August 15th. I also have wedding insurance, so I'm going to contact them about how far I can push it and be covered. It's possible that will buy us more time.

View Quoted Comment Ok great....