October (fall 2020) Brides: Are you going forward or postponing?

Our wedding is also 10/10/20. Our venue cancelled on us on July 3rd! We have to replan the entire thing which is stressful considering we've had everything set in stone with the venue for almost two years lol.

We decided to get married in his brother's backyard (he has 3 acres). We cut our guest list from 150 to 50, and are doing a mobile bar and hopefully a BBQ food truck. We will rent tables and chairs and a tent or two in case weather gets bad.

We just ordered invites and printed letters to those who we can no longer have at our wedding. It's definitely a stressful process lol. I am 100% not postponing, we have been together 7 years, own our home together, have been engaged for two years, and are ready to start a family soon. I am spacing seats/tables out by families i know hang out, intentionally not doing a buffet, going to have sanitizer everywhere, got masks just in case people want them. We are just trying to do all that we can to keep everyone safe, but want it to still be a special and amazing day! We are in the same boat (feeling pessimistic about planning), but I don't have faith this will be over anytime soon so we decided to move forward and still be as safe as possible. Good luck!!

If you are not happy with having the type of wedding the pandemic will allow, rather than the one you had envisioned, maybe just do an elopement on your date this year, then have the big celebration next year.

Our wedding was scheduled for 10.10.2020. We postponed to 10.07.2021. It’s just not worth it and having a COVID wedding is not what we want.

View Quoted Comment Excellent idea! We considered that! I think that’s what a lot of people are tending to do right now.

View Quoted Comment I agree. We don’t want to compromise our vision and we certainly don’t want to risk anyone getting sick!

View Quoted Comment Your plan sounds similar to ours! I think it’s the only compromise I’ll be satisfied with. Everyone’s comfort and safety are our main concern but if we can have a celebration with our family and closest friends, we want to do it!

10/10/20 bride too!! We are still going forward with our plans and not postponing. We have been fairly lucky with the our venue. They are a privately owned restaurant and event space, and I call them about once a month getting updates on things. I just talked to the owner this past weekend, and she reassured me that they we will still be able to have my wedding this fall (as long as no one gets sick). We will social distance chairs, tables, and provide hand sanitizer, and masks if guests want them.

We decided to cut our guest list from 50 people to about 25, all immediate families and the wedding party. Since our guest list was small to begin with we are fine with cutting it down even more. And we will be live streaming the ceremony for those other guests that we had to cut. So far everyone has been very supportive and understanding.

My FH and I are very much looking forward to our intimate wedding this year. We wanted it really small to begin with, and we're going to make it as special as we can. We have been together for 10 years, and really don't want to postpone and wait even longer. We also don't think this virus will be going away anytime soon. But we're hoping, once COVID is long gone, to throw a kick ass wedding anniversary party with all our families, friends, co-workers, and just celebrate love and good health. I know every bride's vision of their wedding day is different, so if you feel like this isn't what you want your wedding day to look, then I would start thinking about a plan b. Good luck to you!!!!

We are old and want to have a baby before his next deployment (looking like 2022) soooooo we are keeping our day. Only having 50 guests to begin with but we moved venues to give more space and allow a dance floor.

Our date is also 10/10 and I don't know what we're doing.

The original plan was a guest list of 130. Plan B is 30-40, which is what we've decided to go with so far. Plan C is immediate family only (parents/siblings). No dancing; formal dinner and dessert instead, then calling it a night.

We're not postponing getting married, and we hope to have a vow renewal and more traditional reception in 2022.

But I go back and forth multiple times a day between B & C. Each decision just feels impossible.

A friend of mine is still keeping her 10/24/2020 date at this time. While she has already cut her guest list from 100 to 20 and having a more low-key day, she's prepared to make further adjustments if needed.

My wedding is 10/24/2020 and my DJ literally just texted me and dropped out and sent me my money back because of Covid. I’m just really confused on what it’s going to look like 3 months from now. Me and my FH have been together 10 years and at this point I’m over Covid and even planning at this point. It isn’t going to go away so what do we even do? I don’t want to postpone either but what like you said we don’t even know what the day will end up looking like it how many guest are even going to show. I’m lost. We invited around 100 people and that includes plus 1s. I highly doubt all come and so far my venue is still on for Oct but that just depends on laws here in Texas. *sigh* didn’t ever imagine any of us would be having to worry about something like this especially for our wedding day.

We tried to wait as long as we thought was necessary to see how things would look. This week we unfortunately chose to postpone the wedding, but we want to have a wedding that we have been planning for and that we'll be happy with. Restricting the number of guests to 1/3-1/2 of our original planned number is just cutting out A LOT of people we would love to have. We also don't want to have guests not feel comfortable with coming or be scared they might catch the virus the day of.
At this point too, we've been dragging on planning other things as well (just because of uncertainty) that I just wouldn't want anything to look slapped together last minute

We were 10/10/2020, but have decided to postpone to 5/30/2021. I have older grandparents, my father in law is diabetic and my brother is asthmatic, I just couldn't risk putting them in harm or having my big day without them. Plus it was just overwhelming with continuing to plan in the middle of this pandemic. My state is considered a hot spot s and we have thousands of new cases everyday. It was just to much. We are thinking of continuing to get married on our 10/10 date and having something intimate and having the big celebration next year.

Ours Is 10/17 In VA With 60 Guests. We Have No Intention To Postpone At All. Masks Will Be Required And As That Is A Buzzkill, Its Necessary As Long As I Can Get Photos Without Them. We Are Going With The Flow Of Things. We Will Be Married Regardless And Will Enjoy Our Day No Matter What.

Same here I have changed my date from April 2020 to August 2020 and it has been a lot, I did have vendors back out but they were quickly replace. I have amazing wedding planners that are in contact with all of my vendors. I just want to make it down the isle.

We were getting nervous and frustrated with everything and with the cases on the rise and FMIL's health, we decided it would be best to postpone our October 3rd wedding or modify it rather...

we had bought masks, sanitizer etc. and we felt it wasn't enough to keep everyone safe.

So instead we're eloping on October 2nd and having a vow renewal & celebration next year.

It feels much better to do it this way and now that we have a plan. It was stressful making the decision and changing everything but I feel that it's worth it.

We are 10/10 as well. Our venue has moved all wedding outdoors 100% and people are required to wear masks to come in for the bathroom. We cut our guest list down from 150 to about 80 inviting so we'll see how many we actually get once we send out invites. We are in NJ and doing well with COVID but removed all from the list from the 31 states that would require a 14 day quarantine.

We’re also getting married on 10/10/2020 and we’re gonna go for it! Even if we have to scale everything back to a very small ceremony and do a larger reception at a later date!

I postponed my big wedding to June 2021. We're having an intimate ceremony 10/10/20

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is me right now. October 10 is my wedding as well. Chopped bridal party and guest list. Not inviting couples as it will greatly reduce my numbers. Sighs. So stressed, but I am pushing ahead. Cannot bother.