October Wedding 😩

Hi!! December bride here so I’m not too far off, but I’m riding this out as long as I can. Typically invitations aren’t sent out until 6-8 weeks in advance of your wedding so I will wait til 2 months before (October) to decide if I’m going to postpone. Could you do the same and wait until August or are there other complications with vendors and such?

View Quoted Comment Right now the vendors are being cooperative, so that’s a positive. I just have been really nervous because of this virus.

View Quoted Comment That’s good then!! And yes I think all of us 2020 brides are. I just keep telling myself that my wedding is months away and a lot could change by then. Try to stay positive!!😊

We pushed our Oct. 2020 wedding to Oct. 2021 (huge wedding 300+ guests). We were at the crossroads of a large non-refundable venue payment coming due. Prior to paying, we contacted the venue with our covid concerns and to inquire about a hold in 2021. They blew us off and said they were only dealing with Apr./May weddings (at the time). We didn't want to lose out on a good date in 2021, so we canceled the venue, lost our deposit and re-booked somewhere else. It was an excruciating decision at the time - but now that we are a month past we are soo happy we did it. Good luck!

I am an October 16th bride and we are waiting it out. We invited 236 people and are still hoping for our wedding to happen. We do have a soft hold with all of our vendors for September 4th of next year just in case! I would come up with a plan B to keep your mind at ease, definitely helped me. My mom is a nurse in Chicago and she wants me to wait it out till August to post pone it!

View Quoted Comment Yes my mom also is a nurse here in NC and she said for me to wait it out until August as well, so I am just trying to hold out until then.

My wedding is 10/10/20. We are holding out until the end of July. We probably will cut our list form 180 guest to about 80. Thats will be super tough for a number of reasons.

1. We already purchased a lot of things to accommodate the number of guest.

2. We have large families that get together often with each other. So inviting someone and not someone else will definitely cost offense.

3. We both recently had serious family tragedies and both of our families have been very vocal about getting the family together for our wedding to celebrate family and love. Our wedding has become a big deal for everyone.

We've contacted our venue and they aren't rescheduling weddings in October at this time. So, its the waiting game for us as well. I personally don't want to reschedule, I rather get married with a small group of family, and Zoom Meeting everyone else.

View Quoted Comment I definitely agree our list is 200 people, his mom passed away from the virus so a lot of his family are looking forward to this positive moment so cutting things back would definitely suck. I’m going try to hold out because my venue also is not rescheduling at this time also. Hopefully things get better by the end of June so I won’t be so stressed.

View Quoted Comment I am in a very similar situation and close to making the same decision. Our venue isn’t entertaining conversations for Oct weddings and honestly I kind of feel like they are waiting until we are past the threshold where we will be on the hook for more money. So we may need to make a fast decision in the next few weeks to cancel and start from scratch. They also are making those that postpone to 2021 pay more even though we have no control. Such a rollercoaster. I feel for all us brides stressing about what to do!


Did you at least feel relief once you made your decision?

View Quoted Comment Yes somewhat but it definitely is still just sitting in the back of my head. I just feel like I’m behind on planning or I’m going to miss something because of things not being open.

I am a 10/31/20 bride here. I’m going to hold out as long as I can to reschedule! My venue is located in western NY and seem optimistic and will ride out the wait with us. I think the biggest thing for everyone is 1) will we be able to meet all the phases the government has put in place by the wedding date 2) will we not meet the phases and have a social gathering limit if and when a second wave hits. If we meet the criteria to have gatherings without a # restriction than yes we are a go! I think we all understand it will be up to each couple if they want to move forward with their wedding and it’ll be up to each guest to decide if they want to attend a wedding this year. I say if you and your partner are willing to move forward with the wedding and certain guests choose not to come than we just have to respect that and just move forward. They can appear by zoom, FaceTime , etc. I know it’s important to think about friends and family during this time but we also need to think of ourselves and our partners and what we want; as a marriage is a commitment between the both of us. I wish the best for all couples getting married this year!

I'm getting married the same day, in Indiana. So far, everyone has been very optimistic that we'll be over the hump and everything can operate as close to normal as possible. I'm a worry-wort and I'm feeling the same way you are. It may be hard because friends/family may decide not to come for health reasons, but I'm really hopeful life will be as close to normal as can be.

I had already postponed once, so now scheduled for 2/14/21. I've heard about a 2nd wave and other such fears, but I've also heard others on here talking about keeping all the other things in place and modifying the guest list so only the a few people are physically present but everyone else participated via zoom or houseparty...one of those apps.


I hope nothing gets in the way of the wedding of your dreams, but if there is a need to postpone, it won't be the end of the world. You can still find a way to do this. The wedding is 1 day. The marriage is the rest of your life. However you get to the next step, it'll be beautiful ::hugs::

10/16/2020! We are waiting too! Our decision date is July for executing on Plan B.

I’m an October 10th bride, and my fiancé and I are also riding it out, hoping for the best. If it means we have a smaller guest count, oh well. Trying to make the best of it!

View Quoted Comment Date twin here! I am sooo nervous, but trying to stay hopeful and positive! Do you have everything booked already?

I’m a 10/10/20 bride in CT. I’m also nervous about having to postpone. I have a lot of family coming from out of state. We’ve got a small wedding 75-80 guests. I was going to wait until August to decide.

I’m November 21 in Virginia but this has been eating away at me. Granted our wedding is small 60 people max but everything being contingent on the virus and what level of lockdown the state is in makes me sick to my stomach. My MOH and I were literally talking about all our concerns yesterday.
Right now, the plan is to proceed as normal but the FH and I have already been talking backup plans.
🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

Hey Tia!

I am also in NC and have a 10/03 wedding rescheduled for round 2 due to COVID. My suggestion to you is to have a back up plan just in case. It may ease your mind. Most vendors are really flexible and are being great. Whatever happens, just remember, it will be a fun memory for you and the hubby! Sending light and love

View Quoted Comment Yes, everything has been booked!