My fiance and I are on the same page: We want a secular, non-religious ceremony. But his parents, and even he, have this idea that his Lutheran Bishop grandfather should officiate our wedding. I don't trust him to not mention god or try to pray during our ceremony, which would be very upsetting for me. My fiance is Atheist and doesn't care about religion, but I'm a Unitarian Universalist and am very touchy about people pushing Christian faith onto me. My fiance's parents have been told for 5 years that I'm not Christian, but just this year it seems to have sunk in when they asked what my family used to do for Easter and I said we celebrated the Pagan aspects of it. I've dealt with the pressure to be religious in a Christian way my whole life, and don't want it on my wedding day. My parents were raised Methodist and Catholic, and my grandfather is a Catholic Deacon, so having a Lutheran ceremony would not only be offensive to me, but to him. Our ceremony will be outdoors, in Colorado so literally anyone can officiate.
How do we even find another officiant? Am I off base with saying no to this?