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Officiant Decision

Samantha, on June 11, 2022 at 3:37 AM Posted in Planning 6 10
How did you end up deciding on the officiant that you had/will have marry you and your SO? Did they come included with the venue, are they a personal friend/relative/relationship, or did you have to search for one?


If so, what are good questions to ask or good ways to feel them out to make sure they are a good fit?

10 Comments

Latest activity by Mrs.evans, on June 14, 2022 at 11:38 PM
  • Kylee
    Savvy July 2023
    Kylee ·
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    We're having my fiance's dad marry us! We decided to have him do it because we know he's already a licensed officiant and has already done a few weddings. This way, we know he will do a good job, and it's also someone close to us. I would maybe ask around and see if any of your friends/relatives are already licensed officiants and see if they would be willing to do it. Otherwise, there's always the option to hire someone!
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  • Imani
    Master July 2022
    Imani ·
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    We are having a friend officiant for us. We went with him because he knows both of us really well and he’s been around since we first started dating. We thought it would be a great idea to have someone bless our union that we know personally and also know us.
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  • A
    Just Said Yes October 2022
    Allison ·
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    We are having my FH's mentor and friend marry us, we wanted someone who knew us somewhat, not some random stranger.

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  • Grace
    Super February 2022
    Grace ·
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    My husband knew he wanted his friend to officiate since before we got together. His friend is very funny, loves to talk, and has known him since childhood. He is also someone my husband knew he could trust to stick to a script (within reason) and would respect his boundaries if he said a topic was off limits. When we got engaged, he asked if this friend officiating was okay with me and I agreed.


    Our officiant had also officiated someone else's wedding just a few years before ours so he knew the legal requirements in our state and was very prepared. It worked out wonderfully and he did a fantastic job!
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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
    Cece ·
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    We are having a destination wedding and contemplated having a friend get ordained to marry us. Ultimately though, we decided to hire a professional. I’ve just seen too many awkward ceremonies where friends have officiated and don’t really know what they are doing (or got stage fright once they were standing in front of lots of people). We wanted to ensure things went smoothly and the officiant could direct our rehearsal.
    We searched for officiants online, read tons of reviews and watched videos of weddings they had officiated. I was pretty sure I had decided on an officiant, but decided to ask our photographer if he had any suggestions and he actually suggested the one I’d already chosen! That sealed the deal for us. Definitely don’t hesitate to ask your other vendors for suggestions. They do tons of weddings and can tell you who is talented, consistent and reliable to work with.
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  • Alisha
    Rockstar April 2021
    Alisha ·
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    We asked my cousin who was already a pastor and we have a great relationship with her she knows us
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  • E
    Expert September 2022
    EGD ·
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    Our Officiant was included in our DJ Package.

    We would have loved a friend to marry us, but none of our friends are known for public speaking so we didn't have to put that pressure on them

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  • Paige
    VIP October 2022
    Paige ·
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    Our church has 3 priests we could have selected. The one we both really wanted has always given great homilies, is kind, has a great sense of humor, and just seemed like the right pick.

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  • Ashlee
    Super September 2022
    Ashlee ·
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    We looked at local officiants, but were not overly impressed. We ended up asking my FH's cousin, because we wanted something a little more personal.

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  • Mrs.evans
    VIP October 2022
    Mrs.evans ·
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    Mine is personal now had 2 the first 1 we knew the pastor for many year and then the church closed down with the pandemic in all. Then the 2 1 was my cusion but our schedules were not meeting up and then my FH other job took hom out of state alot. So now presently we are asking a very close friend of ours and is ordained so hopefully that this one sticks.
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