Hello,
My fiance and I are both church people, so we want a pastor to officiate our wedding. We picked someone (after much debate because there wasn't an obvious choice) last June. Our wedding is in May of this year. The guy we picked is someone my fiance knew during college. Ideally, the officiant would also do marriage counseling with us, but this guy lives several hours from either of us. Now he says he can't do the counseling nor can the couple he thought might be able to in his place. Basically he told us to find someone else to do the counseling. In the meantime, my fiance and I have chosen a church in the town where he lives, and we both like the pastor there. That new pastor has agreed to help us with the counseling. Now we are wondering if it we should or even could switch the officiant. We haven't even discussed fees with the first guy, and at this point all he's doing is showing up for the rehearsal and wedding. What do you all think? Is it okay to change officiant four months away from wedding? Should it even matter who does the ceremony?
