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Maude
Savvy June 2020

Officiating?

Maude, on November 11, 2019 at 10:25 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5
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So, my husband decided that he really wanted to have our vow renewal ceremony without anyone else present except the photographer. We had initially planned on inviting two of our best friends, having our two small children there and also our pastor to officiate. But, then my best friend didn’t get approved for leave (she’s in the army) and so I decided we just maybe wouldn’t invite our other friend either. Upon asking my husband today, he says he really would just like it to be us. Not even our pastor or kids. Which I truly don’t mind as I’m in love with the elopement type of feel... BUT I’m panicking over the fact that we will have no one to officiate! How do we do this ourselves without it being corny or a total flop?! I just want this to be a magical experience between us and I’m afraid we’ll ruin it trying to do it without an officiant. Anyone have any knowledge on people who self officiated!? I would appreciate some insight here!

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Latest activity by Maude, on November 12, 2019 at 11:35 AM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    I dunno your area but google wedding officiants. Even in other states there are people that will travel to you and officiate the wedding. You can even find on here via wedding wire. Good luck and make it a second honeymoon. Smiley smile

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  • C
    Beginner November 2021
    Courtney ·
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    Google “self-uniting” wedding ceremonies/scripts! There are states where you don’t need an officiant at all, so this should give you a basis to work from!
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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
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    If its a vow renewal, and not a legal ceremony, you can totally do it without an officiant. Just write your vows to each other and read them to each other. Like the others said, there’s probably information you can find online that can give you some direction.
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  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
    Ivy ORP ·
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    I've always wanted to see a couple do this. Since it will just be the two of you, you can make it any way you want. Sit down and figure out what is most important to you and determine how to include it. (ie: personal vows, ring exchange, etc)

    This is just an idea in my head but maybe it can help as a jumping off point... Walk together to the place you wish to have your ceremony, announce why you are there (something like "I come here to reaffirm my bond with you" or something to that effect), exchange your vows, whatever additional ceremony you may wish to include like rings or sand, find some easy two or three line phrase or affirmation that can be easily memorized and said together, then announce yourselves with something like "We are one", kiss and celebrate.

    As others said, I'm sure there's information online and probably suits better than what I just came up with in 2 minutes. lol

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  • Maude
    Savvy June 2020
    Maude ·
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    Thanks everyone! Your advice really helped. I now have a bit of a better idea on how to set up our ceremony!
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