Ok, can my fiance be at my bridal shower???

That's fine. Usually a work shower and a main shower are not combined.


The only participation the bride makes is giving the host a guest list. But if its a surprise shower, then you dont pick the guest list.

If those hosting the shower ask you for additions to the guest list, then, yes, you can let them know you'd appreciate it if they include your fiancé and friends. But, if it's a "surprise" and they don't ask you for input, I think you need to let it go. A "work shower" typically includes co-workers (and in my experience, maybe the MOB and/or MOG if they are local), but not other nonwork friends. If your wedding party or a family member or friend offers to host a separate shower for you, they might ask for you input on the guest list.

If it is a shower that just your co-workers are hosting then I wouldn't invite anyone outside of work to attend. But you if you having a shower with co-workers, family and friends and the hosts ask for your input on guest list I think it fine to tell them you'd like for the shower to be co-ed. Then you fiancé can have his friends there as well. My husband was at my shower the entire time and the only guy. He stayed for it since it was out of town and there wasn't really anywhere else for him to go. We are currently expecting our first baby and we will be having a co-ed virtual baby shower.

My husband made an appearance at the end of the bridal shower

It's totally common for him to make an appearance! He may not be there for the games and whatnot, but many show up for the gifts.

Mine will be coming in at the end to bring my flowers and take gifts out to the car (apparently that's an old tradition?) and I thought it was cute.

We had a wedding shower, not a bridal shower, so it was both DH and myself. (I... dislike stuff being gendered like that.)

Our guest list was also mixed.

That said, that was a shower thrown by our friends, not our coworkers. But if you'd be more comfortable with it being mixed, say so.

View Quoted Comment Oh see I like this!!! Totally getting rid of bridal shower and doing wedding shower!! lol and my work is my family. Lol I work for my family. Lol