Older Brides....35 and up!

Words of wisdom for wedding planning? I'm 37 and my husband is 35, neither of us had been married before. I was convinced that we should just go to some island in the Caribbean to get married but he wanted the big catholic wedding. He said I would regret not having the wedding...we compromised and had a small wedding (75 ppl). I think it was age appropriate (full open premium bar, very high end food, cigar lounge, traditional and elegant, MoH and BM only). I don't know if I would have regretted eloping for myself, but during the process I realized it was very important for our friends and families so I have no regrets. Just think age appropriate (no jello shots, garter/bouqet toss, cake smashing etc) and I think you'll be fine!!

Ok so I saw the post for brides under 25 and then one for brides over 35 and I'm neither lol.

BUT I am 32 (FH is 35) I have been married before (typical highschool sweetheart crap, no offence to those out there doing this, just didn't work for us) with 2 children from that marriage. Its my FH's first marriage so he wanted something big and I wanted something small. We compromised and decided on a big south wedding. 192 Invited but I'm gonna guess about 60 will actually go

Second time around is very different.. you def focus on different things and like you said know what you want.

I was married for the second time at age 56. And honestly, what I've learned is that there is no point in stressing about the wedding. Any big issues will become fodder for funny stories you can keep telling for decades. And any small ones will get forgotten in the joy of being married to the one you love.

Well I'm 51 and FH is 44 and this will be a second marriage for the both of us. We both had the big wedding the first time around so this is a small intimate affair with just family and close friends this time around. FH is Pagan, so we are doing a Halloween themed wedding on a full moon. Mainly it is just going to be a huge Halloween party with a wedding skew. Costumes being encouraged for those that want to wear them. We just want to have a fun and throw the wedding in as a side note. After all it's all about having a good time and enjoying the day with those that we love and are closest to.

For me this second go around at marriage...I am getting the wedding that I have always dreamed of! Our engagement is going to last a full year! My family loves my FH! I feel that me being older, life has taught me alot about me! I was 19 my first marriage and rushed into it! I am taking my time and enjoying the entire experience!

I'm 37 next week and FH is the same - we've been friends for 20 years!

Neither of us married before and had diasterous relationships - the secret was our friendship - it has gotten us through everything!

I am 41 and my DH is 31. I, too, rushed into my first marriage. This time, I was engaged for a year and a half which gave us plenty of time to save money and plan the wedding I never had before. My words of wisdom are: don't rush into anything, if you can't trust them now, that's not going to change when you get married. Be honest and lay all of your cards on the table. If they love you, they will stick around.

If it feels wrong it probably is. Don't ignore your gut feeling because somebody may call you *irrational*.

Preserve at least some of your independence, whatever that means to you. Keep your friends. Although you're getting married, your girlfriends are still invaluable.

Dont try to change him-and dont think he will change-accept him as he is, enjoy him as he is.