Older2nd time around brides?

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Awwwww.. thanks. You are too! What state do you live in, if you don't mind me asking? I'm in Iowa.

This is my third marriage and yes, third wedding. Why not? What is a wedding but a big party and a chance to share a really important moment in your life. JOP is nothing. Just a slip of paper- no memories, no celebration... being older doesn't mean you stop living. I have been the MOB and I wore an appropriate MOB dress. For my October wedding I am wearing cream velvet. Long sleeve, long dress. Wear what you want, do what you want and if you need inspiration, remember Elizabeth Taylor's eight weddings, and look at the clothing worn by Cher, Jane Fonda. Meryl Streep and Jessica Lang. Celebrate being alive and in love again!

There is a certain meanness to some people, when you are doing nothing to hurt or offend anyone, and they still want to step on your happiness. We were 26 when we married. We each had a Previous marriage with 10 people in attendance, at 20 and 21. My husband died 3 months later, totally unexpectedly. His wife was one year in remission from leukemia treatment, married in a side chapel of their church, not even siblings, just 2 sets parents. She died 6 months later, bad case of the flu . Each of us was devastated, got past it, met 8 months before getting engaged. And numerous not very nice people on his side, mostly a few sisters in law and sisters and family friends, just had to tell us how wrong we were to have a formal big wedding ( 180 present) at an Inn. And they were thorny throughout. We were happy about their likely declining, but they all came. 😗 So they could specifically accurately make fun of us later? Start your happy marriage with a lovely celebration, and ignore those who live to criticize. It is not just older brides who get this. Some of our critics had side comments, like, you aren't even the same religion, or race, so you will get divorced anyways, so why bother? Some people cannot have a happy day unless they are rotten to somebody. 12 years and a family later, we are happy. Some of them, however, got divorced.

View Quoted Comment Wow what a story. I'm so glad you have your second chance at happy ever after. We met in December briefly, got more serious in January and engaged by October. We are so good for each other. So many things in common too!

View Quoted Comment That is so beautiful. I am wearing a lace silver color gown and the back hangs like a small train. Now I want to lose10-20 lbs to get it altered by May. Thank you for your reaponse.

View Quoted Comment It willbe elegant with the lighting too

View Quoted Comment Congratulations. We got so many things off Facebook market place and the tableclothfactory. Yes we pay for it, but still need to save. My FH made the centerpieces and Vases came from Goodwill.

View Quoted Comment For you, wiser about what it takes from both people to make a successful marriage. For him, having got many of the essential things right the first time around. You both are going in with a more mature sense of what you want, and finding the joy again is precious. Dance on the roof if you feel like it, and have the celebration you want. I am happy for you! The year we married, and a couple of my siblings and 3 first and second cousins on my Mom's side all married or would be soon ( all April to Oct.) Our 72 yr old, long widowed grandmother brought home a beau her age. She had met him the winter before, visiting his son up the street. The only wedding we all went to the next year was theirs, a party cruise up the St. Laurence River Montreal to Quebec, with a restaurant stop for the ceremony and meal, and some Quebec family boarding. Such a great wedding. Have yours just as you want it!

Doreen, I was like you, looking at MOB dresses. My husband told the saleslady "She is the bride!"

I wore a champagne/ivory dress. We were married in church. Had a great reception.

J and T

Your sister has no say in your wedding, you aren't marrying her

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In the words of Taylor Swift lol "all's well that ends well, to end up with you" I feel like all the crap I went through prior to my current husband was worth it to end up with him. xoxo

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Awww so sweet and congratulations! This was a 2nd for my husband and I. I am 40 (had a backyard wedding the 1st time) and he is 52 (had a big wedding the 1st time). This time we planned the wedding we both wanted, keeping things fun and casual but it was the most perfect day. His 1st marriage lasted 22 years and mine 20. We got married on our 8th anniversary and we couldn't be happier this time around.

Congrats!!! I'm not older but this was my second go round. First marriage of 13 years ended due to abuse. 1st marriage we eloped then had a vow renewal in Vegas at the 7 year mark. Then ended up separating and were on again/ off again for another 6 years because I'm stupid and kept giving him chances to make things right. I found out 2 months after we renewed our vows that he was a potential daddy candidate to my knocked up friend who didn't know who knocked her up. Not a friend anymore at this point lol.

This was my husband's third marriage. First marriage he apparently had a big wedding. Second he had a JOP style wedding. Have talked to his ex wife (we're friends now, ha) and they both admit not putting their all into the marriage.

So my 2nd marriage was actually my 3rd time planning a wedding type event and let me tell you... don't listen to anyone! Do it how you want to do it! I remember eloping with my first husband and things never felt right. Our vow renewal didn't feel right. It was all just off. This last time everything felt downright perfect. It came together not exactly how I wanted it but better than I could have hoped for. I wore a white dress with a veil, had my dad walk me down the aisle, had guests. It was great. Seriously do it how you want to.

View Quoted Comment Good for you for making that change. When I married before, I thought it would be forever. I had doubts all along. This time it seems so right. And we both are making the plans

View Quoted Comment Good for you. You seem so happy.i have 4 months till our big day

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Thank you! It is going to fly by so fast!!

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That sounds gorgeous! Be playful and extravagant and enjoy your wedding. May is a beautiful month... Spring!

Congratulations and you are welcome.

Congratulations! I’m 44 and this is my second marriage. I was widowed 7 1/2 years ago. This is a very different experience but so cool. I’m so excited to be getting married. It’s my FH’s first wedding and he’s 41, so we’re doing it all up big. Probably having the wedding of both our dreams!

I don't necessarily consider myself an older bride, but this will be my second marriage. My FH and I are both 32... his first wedding.
I was married before in 2009 for 6 years.... It ended in 2015...
had the big wedding and everything I could have wanted I suppose... my dad and his parents paid for everything. The marriage ended on mutual terms. We had been together since I was 16 and he was 18 and we simply grew up and became different people. This wedding has become bigger than I expected it to be... but FH and I are paying for it entirely. It is his first and better be his only wedding lol and I want him to have a nice day. I'm getting some slack from my family that it shouldnt be so elaborate since it is my second time, but like others have said they arent paying for it. Here's to our day!! May we all enjoy it to the fullest and make memories that will last a lifetime!

You do whatever makes you and FH happy. This is my second wedding and I’ve already been asked why I’m wearing a traditional wedding dress and the answer is because I want to. Everyone else does what they want, why can’t you? It’s not their marriage. Throw their words away, do what makes you both happy, and enjoy the day!! Congrats!!!!