Omg i quit 😭

No, don’t quit now. I know it’s a lot but it’ll all be worth it. Try to focus on one thing at a time. Don’t stress over the little things if he doesn’t have an opinion about: cake, napkin colors, flowers. Go with your instinct that you think would be best overall. Most men won’t/don’t even know what’s required for wedding planning. Definitely tell him it’s important to you that he help make a joint decision on the important stuff though.
Good luck. And take it one step at a time.

Can you hire a planner????

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much 💓

I feel the same way!! lol. Wedding planning is NOT fun. I'm over it.

View Quoted Comment It's very overwhelming. I have cried twice today about. Now he saying he planning it. Lol open bar & wings

Lol! I feel you. It’s really stressful, we’ve already gotten in two fights. My family is a sensitive issue.. he wants to be involved in everything but he doesn’t have the time I have to dedicate to looking at venues and stuff…. Ahhhhh

Sit down with fiancé and get on the same page about what you want and what you don’t. You aren’t marrying yourself so he needs to provide input or else put planning on the back burner until he is ready to discuss it. Telling you “whatever you want” is not a contribution of ideas. Just because you have large families doesn’t mean every single person needs to be invited. Not everyone is super close to every single relative. Best friends don’t even make the guest list alot of the time because many couples invite people out of obligation they don’t care about to make everyone except themselves happy. Decide together who are your absolute must have guests, not who parents pressure you to invite because they already got married. Anyone who is not on your must have list does not get an invite.


At the very least, look into a month of coordinator if you intend to do any planning on your own. A full planner is designed for couples who want to be a full on guest at their own wedding. They can also take care of an elopement if that is what you really want. Keep in mind that many brides on the forum have posted saying they eloped at the courthouse or another location and they did not have a wedding not exchange vows because it was not a big expensive lavish Pinterest party even though the officiants and government will say they did take place and it disrespects those who eloped by choice.

View Quoted Comment Aw lovey. I hope it gets better. It's so harder because now his mom & I aren't speaking so it's alot more stressful. I just want a day filled with love not craziness & right now it just feels like craziness.

View Quoted Comment Ok thank you. I didn't even think of it that way.

View Quoted Comment I just pray it gets easier as we chop this guest list down. This had been the hardest part.

There’s no doubt that planning a wedding is stressful. One thing I learned the hard way, though, is that there is no shame in asking for help. If you both have these big families, enlist them! What exactly do you need help with the most: vendors, invitations, etc.? Reach out to anyone you know - family, friends, here - that knows about wedding planning. The more help you have, the easier things will be. Good luck!

I’m so sorry, Sherri. It is REALLY stressful. I’ve been trying to take some days off of work to get things squared away AND take some days off of wedding planning. We had a very short engagement (5 months) and it’s made for some major meltdowns. Some nights, we just have to say “No wedding talk” and take a break from planning for a night. Hope taking some breaks help! Keep up the hard work!

View Quoted Comment I’ve definitely given my partner very specific tasks. He also says “whatever you want” because he’s so busy and then has strong opinions when I make some decisions. Haha he’s a conundrum. The task list, very clearly written out, is so helpful for him. He’s able to make those small lists a priority. Hope it helps and your day turns out just how you’d like it to!

Oh, don't quit. You can do it! I'm actually feeling the same way. Just looking for venues alone and calling for inquiries is already exhausting. My partner is supportive but he's also busy at work. On top of that, i don't have my friends here with me that i can talk to and help me out. When we put our efforts to it, it's gonna be worth it and fulfilling at the end for sure.

Girl, you got this. Sit down with hubby-to-be and talk. "Whatever you want" isn't an option - it's his wedding too!

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Sold! lol. I was not choosy at all about my wedding so my FH took care of a lot of those types of details for me.

I felt this way the two days before our wedding. I’d planned my ass off, had every detail coordinated, but at the last minute a bunch of flights got delayed, there was a mixup with a florist, and I drank too much two nights before the wedding and was horrifically hungover at the rehearsal dinner and even into the morning of our wedding.


But the wedding went beautifully, and I was on cloud 9 all day. The ceremony was absolutely perfect (best ever—it was so personalized and deep and well timed with a gorgeous venue and ideal lighting), my makeup turned out perfectly, the reception was gorgeous, all my decor and games and slideshow and speeches came out the way I wanted…
The wedding exceeded my expectations. And now it’s the day after and we’re at a beautiful hotel on a hill, reliving everything, and you know what? It was worth all the planning and money.
I only wish we’d hired a professional videographer for Zoom because the kid who did it messed it up. He didn’t even get me walking down the aisle! So that’s my only regret.
Hang in there. The month before the wedding is really rough, and the days before are even harder, but then it’s happening and it’s incredible.

Don't quit! When mine did that, I told him that I wanted his opinion too because it was his big day as well and we only get one of those. While I don't have the big family issue, look into having a smaller reception and limited it to how many people you are okay with. I limited mine to 60 but was willing to go up to 70 people and nothing more.

However, If you still want to elope, you can always have a big hooray reception later.

Hope everything works out!

View Quoted Comment Aw thank you. We talked yesterday I'm a little more at ease.

View Quoted Comment Aw. Congratulations 🎊