One Bridesmaid backed out

I don’t think she’s saying your friendship isn’t important I just think she made the best choice for herself and family which you should understand and not be angry as you say. As people grow older and start families and get married the dynamics of relationships and friendships change. It’s good she backed out now vs weeks before the wedding. Be supportive of her choice as a new mom and not angry with her.

I completely understand where you're coming from, and I would feel the same way. Everyone who is giving you crap for "judging" clearly doesn't know what it's like to have one of their best friends (who already committed to being in the wedding) drop out. She's clearly not putting herself in your shoes the way you've tried to for her. I would be devastated. Try your best to see if there's any additional way you could accommodate her (in addition to what you've already done). Best of luck!

I hate to be judgmental on you, but I am a mom and my kids have always been first. I was a single mom for 14 years. Please don't make her feel guilty for being a mom. You will maybe understand her position when you take on that role. She just had a baby per your message that means at your wedding her little one would be 6 months old. As a mom no way would I leave my 6 month old and travel some place else. Having a child is also a big strain on a person. I personally think you should be grateful she let you know now. It seems to me that you are the one who is being selfish and doesn't value the friendship. Sorry.

Awe that is such a bummer! I would be upset by that too especially since she said yes to begin with. I’m sorry you’re going through that.