One of my guests invited her boyfriend who was not on the guest list

View Quoted Comment I’m still laughing at have him bring a chair and a sandwich lol 👋

You’re 26 days away from your big day and you don’t need any negativity or unnecessary stress. I want to say that some people might not always read the envelope and the pay attention to the little details so don’t take what they did personally. I suggest you have fiancé or his mom call them and address this issue since is his family. If is a boyfriend of a short time like you mention then he wasn’t consider when you had your guest list done and you can’t add them now because your room is a capacity. I’m sure they’ll understand it.

I’m shocked at a lot of comments. If you don’t know him and have never met, and they’re not married, I definitely believe he is considered a plus one and not obligated to be invited! I don’t know why anyone would expect you to invite someone you don’t know just because they are dating your cousin, especially if it is an intimate family wedding.
Personally, I’ve been to weddings of my stepmother’s family’s for people I barely knew and I felt so awkward! Why would anyone want to go to a wedding for people they don’t know?

Explaining to her mother might be a better way to go, people don’t understand wedding invite and RSVP edict until they’ve been a part of planning.

My family is just about to run into a similar issue, my cousins wedding was in July and the groom didn’t show up... they are now dating again and my brothers wedding is in a few months and under no circumstances would my mother allow him at the wedding after he couldn’t even attend his own. Worried for when their RSVP comes in.

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Agreeing here.

Stick with your budget.

Have your FH give them a call and explain why you will not be able to accommodate the extra person. If they decide to be salty about it, let em change their rsvp. Then just tap into your inner Frozen princess and "Let it go". You deserve to have those there who have supported you and loved you and will continue to support you and love you. Those who want to manipulate you in whatever manner can go suck an egg

View Quoted Comment I disagree. You don’t know the whole situation. Just because it’s what most do or “how it’s supposed to be” doesn’t mean anything. Not all etiquette rules apply to everyone. Also that rule is normally for people in long term relationships not 1 month of dating. She also didn’t didn’t ask for your opinion on that. She asked for advice on how to handle the situation. My mom used to say “if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say nothin at all”.

So glad it ended up working out!

I had a situation earlier this year where by BF's cousin was getting married (small intimate family ceremony, however large Italian family) and when he found out he immediately invited me and of course I said yes. Then we realized how small the wedding would be and I told him not to feel bad if I ended up not being invited since I wasn't family, but to just ask the bride if it would be an issue for me to come since we had been seeing each other for around 8 months at that point. (No assigned seating, buffet style taco stands). She allowed me to come and even ended up having me make the cupcakes for her wedding as well!

Fiances and spouses must be invited. Everyone else is optional. Call them, say sorry, only th3 5 invited.

I also am faced with this same issue and here is my take on it....have him call her and let her know that her man wasn't included on your guest list. You don't really OWE them any explanations about your decision. Also I'm with you if people aren't married and you have no personal relationship with their boos, baes, or whatever they simply aren't invited.