One Year Pre-Anniversary Party?

No, we did an engagement party and then a wedding, and then there will be bachelor/bachelorette parties and bridal showers, that's more than enough time to ask from our friends. Anniversary parties are dumb unless they are milestones like 25, 30, 40, 50, etc...

Did you already have an engagement party?

I didn't but i did have an engagement party tho. If u didn't have ur engagement party y don't u have it on that date??

My DH and I celebrated our pre-anniversary, but it was just us. It was nice! But unless you want to turn it into an engagement party, i wouldn't turn it into a thing.

I agree, I would make it an engagement party if you haven't had one yet. If you have had an engagement party, consider a private acknowledgment and forgo a "party."

In terms of anniversary parties, in this day and age it's important to celebrate each year of marriage -- not stupid -- especially if you make it meaningful and invite people who will appreciate the celebration.

As there is no such thing as a pre-wedding wedding anniversary, I would not invite others to celebrate.

I would celebrate it, but just with the two of you.

You girls need to lighten up! Wedding stuff is supposed to be fun.

I'm not asking for anyone to bring presents. I just want to have a good party with plenty of free food and booze for the guest with the date being the excuse to have it.

And no, we haven't had an engagement party. Not sure if we'll even have one to be honest. We've been engaged 3 years already, and it'll be 4 by the time we're married.

We didn't have an engagement party.

You could have a huge party and call it whatever you want =) I always try to find days to have parties on haha. I had a taco party, waffle party, luau, and plenty of game night parties.

Melissa, I think everyone seems pretty 'light' in this thread ... you asked a question and everyone is answering.

Personally, I think it's a bit silly to have a "Pre-Anniversary" party. If you'd like to celebrate the day, do something with your FH alone. Marriage takes a lot of work and effort - it's not easy. Celebrating a yearly wedding anniversary is something very special. Having an Anniversary 'Party' is typically celebrated when you have been married for years and you have something to celebrate... not when you're engaged.

If you want to throw a party, then by all means, throw a party. I think the reaction you're getting is more about the desire to spend even more money when you have a wedding in a year anyway. If it fits in your budget and you'd really like to do it, then go for it. But I'd definitely suggest saving the money and putting it towards throwing a great wedding a year later.

We're doing a pre-anniversary vacation, just the two of us. I wouldn't have a party for it, but I hate hosting parties, so the idea would never cross my mind.

We did our engagement party on our "pre-anniversary" date.

I would laugh if i received that invitation.

Celebrate it, but just the two of you.

This just totally confuses me. Why have a party to celebrate that fact that you're getting married but not call it an engagement party? I've never heard of a pre-anniversary party. You're better off just throwing an engagement party and calling it a night.

Also, have you checked the calendar? Your date this year is on a Thursday. Not the best night to be knocking back some drinks. I know I wouldn't go just because I have work the next morning.

Maybe throw yourselves an engagement party and have it for Friday.

If you have already had an engagement party then honestly I would think you were just out for extra attention. If you haven't had an Engagement party, then do that but I would not call it a pre anniversary party. I'm with Kim on this one, anniversary parties should be after you've succeeded in a successful marriage for many years and have something to celebrate. If this were me, I'd put this extra party money into my wedding budget and have an extra awesome party then

It sounds to me like you are just looking to have a little get together with your friends to celebrate that there's only one year left to your wedding - sounds completely reasonable (and fun!) to me! Doesn't sound like your asking for extra attention, presents, or a lot of money to be spent, just a fun night with your friends. I say go for it!

I am thinking of doing the same kind of thing.I didn't have an engagement party either. We will be engaged for a little less than 2 years before we get married. I'm just calling it a "One year til the wedding party" Not a big deal...just a night out for pizza and dinner with our bridal party. This just lets them get to know each other better and its just a night out! No gifts and nothing to expensive. It sounds fun to me. I say do it!

I think it’s a good idea, I actually was considering throwing one myself. We got married and only had immediate family present at the church my husbands uncle pastored. We didn’t get to have a wedding and we didn’t do much celebrating after the ceremony as well. I’ve been asked numerous times by family and friends why they weren’t invited as they assumed we had a big ceremony and left them out, so I think it’s a nice idea to celebrate with so many that love us and been there with us over the years.

View Quoted Comment A few years later response, I but wanted to comment on this in case anyone else googles "1st year anniversary party" and finds this comment. It's not dumb to celebrate the first year of marriage together. The first year can be the hardest, and making it through that is plenty of reason to celebrate. Plus, it can be the joy of celebrating your still fairly new marriage without the stress you had at the wedding. Plus, if you were like me - you may not have even gotten the wedding you planned... so a first year anniversary is perfect.