Opinions on just the moh & bm standing during the ceremony?

My husband was in a groomsman where only the bm and moh stood with the bride and groom. It was a Catholic wedding so they didn't want the whole bridal party to stand for the whole thing. The rest of the bridal party sat in the front row. My recommendation is to get reserved signs for the front row and have the bridal party sit there. I don't have photos since it wasn't my wedding. I don't think my husband cared one bit about having to sit. No I didn't think it looked strange or anything.

Personally I’d wonder why I was asked to be a bridesmaid if I’m not allowed to stand. Is there a reason for considering that way?



Not sure what church Veronica went to, but at our Catholic Church, we had the whole mass and the wedding party did not have to stand for very long, so it wasn’t very taxing on them. They only stood at the very beginning and during our vows and rings part (lasted about 5-7 minutes).

I was a MOH for my sister and there were no other bridesmaids. Her husband had his sister as his BM so only the two of us stood up there, and it didn't look weird at all. They won't look like they're hovering!

View Quoted Comment I probably don’t want it…idek. I keep second-guessing what I want to do with different aspects and keep going down “what-if” rabbit trails. I feel like I’m giving myself a bad rap on here as being the bride who asks dumb questions 😂


Came to kind because I was thinking about Mis-matched party sizes. FH doesn’t think it would look good for me to have 6 (which I was considering) & also doesn’t want more than 4 max in his party so I was trying to weigh options & how I feel about it all.

View Quoted Comment That is very fair! Thank you for the input. I also don’t know if it makes sense & how much I’m actually interested in the idea I was just curious about what it’d be like.


I was considering if I liked the idea because I have more people in mind for my party than FH does (6 vs 4) & he doesn’t like the idea of adding more to his or having uneven numbers. Based off the solutions I’ve thought through at this point I feel like I should probably stick with the core 4 I was originally planning on & then I don’t have this issue anyway lol

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the perspective!! I really do appreciate it.

View Quoted Comment You're welcome 🙂 I saw he is worried about having uneven numbers. What if you had five people stand on each side. You could do MOH and BM obviously on their perspective sides but then have groomsmen and bridesmaids on either side.

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Honestly, nobody will care if you have 6 and he has 4. Literally

As a guest I would think it was a bit weird that so many are not standing. If I was in the wedding party and asked to sit, I would find that equally strange and exclusive, like the couple wanted more people included than they can actually accommodate. But do what works for you.

View Quoted Comment That is very fair! Not necessarily leaning towards doing it but was curious if anyone had done it & what it would be like. So far seems like it’s not a popular way of doing it which I definitely understand.
Thank you for the advice!

I don't know if this is a cultural thing but in the UK usually all the bridesmaids/moh/bm/groomsmen would sit and it isn't weird at all.

I think I would personally either opt to have them all standing or all sitting, just because they could look a bit odd up there stood off to one side? But maybe if you have a look at some pictures of a similar set up we might both be proved wrong?

Ultimately I would always recommend going with what you want, rather than what you feel is expected/traditional. Its your wedding day