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Cynthia, on June 23, 2020 at 2:37 AM Posted in Married Life 0 20
Do you find it A little ridiculous when couples who already have kids together go all out on their weddings?
I’ve been living with my partner for 4 years and we have a 3 year old girl. I’ve always dreamed of a beautiful wedding but now I’am thinking it might be too much since everybody sees us an actual married couple already.

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Latest activity by Mai, on June 7, 2021 at 5:33 PM
  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    I don't think it's ridiculous at all. If it's something you've always wanted but never got due to having kids, buying a house or financial reasons, there's absolutely nothing that can or should hold you back from having what you truly want. If it's in your budget then I say knock yourself out. Some decide not to do it just because they don't care for it but it's definitely up to the couple.

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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    Honestly, it's none of my business what order people do things in.

    I find it more ridiculous that people get married when it's really clear that the relationship is a mess, and they think getting married will fix it. (...It will not.)

    If you want a big wedding, go for it.

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  • mrswinteriscoming
    VIP December 2021
    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    The only thing that dictates when not to have a ‘big’ or ‘ridiculous’ wedding is the bride and groom not wanting that.
    There isn’t any age limit or life event restrictions that stop you from having a glorious day Smiley smile
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  • T
    Super October 2020
    Trisha ·
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    Me And FH Have 2 Sons. I Dont See How Having Kids Has Anything To Do With Whether You Have A Big Wedding Or Not.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    A wedding and having kids are 2 different things. It doesn’t matter if people VIEW you as married because you’re NOT married. So have the wedding you want. People on here have their kids as flower girls and ring bearers all the time.
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  • Mindy
    Super November 2020
    Mindy ·
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    Everyone’s life is different. I think it would be really cute to have a wedding and have your daughter as the flower girl.
    Just because you’r you’ve been together for four years and have a kid doesn’t automatically make you a “married couple.” Back when common law marriages were a thing, the requirement was 7 years of living together. But that’s a totally different issue.
    If it’s something you and your fiancé want to do, then have the big party. Those who love and support your relationship will come and those who find it “ridiculous” can stay home.
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  • M
    Master October 2021
    Mrs.a ·
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    No, I think that’s pretty judgmental of others and yourself. I’ve seen plenty of people with families and children, even older couples who were widowed or divorced who were getting married for the 2nd or 3rd time go all out. I think it’s nice to celebrate with those you love, and especially children to make them feel very much connected, integrated and part of your union.

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  • Nefetera
    VIP March 2015
    Nefetera ·
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    If its something you wanna do then why not. Have your dream wedding
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  • Michelle
    Expert May 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I don’t think that is ridiculous. Since when does having children take away from what kind of wedding you get? Also kids do not make a marriage. All couple deserve the wedding day they want, big or small, kids or no kids. 😊

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  • A
    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    Not at all! When I was a kid I went to a wedding and the couples kids that were my age were there, and I thought it was the coolest thing to be able to be at your parents’ wedding.
    I say have the wedding of your dreams!
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don't think so! i feel like everyone is entitled to the dream wedding they've envisioned

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  • Jodie
    Expert August 2020
    Jodie ·
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    So wait...people who have kids can't celebrate things?

    But for real...throw the wedding celebration of your dreams and enjoy every second of it. If someone feels it is ridiculous, then they can sit their ridiculous butt home.

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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    This is totally up to each individual couple - some couples choose to have a really small, simple wedding even if its the first wedding for both of them and they don't have kids, and then there are couples who have kids (either together or from past relationships) and may or may not be on a 3rd, 4th, or 5th wedding and go all out. I don't think there is a right or wrong it just depends on what you want.

    For me, living with my partner and having a fulfilling intimate relationship with him was super important before committing to marriage, but marriage absolutely had to come before kids. Those are our values, and as long as people are kind to one another and being good parents and partners we have no right to judge what order people choose to live their lives in. I'm still happy for a woman when I find out a friend and her partner are expecting (as long as they seem excited about it), and I'm also really excited when those committed couples with kids decide to finally get married and have the wedding they dreamed of. There are also couples who choose not to cohabitate before marriage and choose to remain virgins until marriage and that's 100% not me but just like I hope those people don't judge me I wouldn't go around pointing fingers at others and saying someone doesn't have the right to have a fancy big wedding just because they already have a kid. If you choose not to have a big wedding (some people don't like them, their expensive, etc) that's totally up to you, but don't feel that you cannot still have a really beautiful fancy affair just because you're a mom already.

    Bonus - you automatically get to have a super cute ring bearer or flower girl already picked out for you.

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  • Alisa
    Devoted August 2020
    Alisa ·
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    Nope not at all. my partner and i have been together for 17 years and have 2 kids and people are even more excited for us to "finally get married already" lol but also sad that bc of covid they can't be there with us. we are having a backyard celebration for our 1 year anniversary

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  • Jr
    Dedicated November 2020
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    I have two teenagers but we both have never been married. So we are going all out. Why wouldnt you? A kid doesnt mean you are married, it means you had sex.
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  • Maria
    Dedicated August 2019
    Maria ·
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    Why would that be ridiculous? Everyone deserves to have the wedding of their dreams. It doesn't matter if you 20 or 80.

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  • Ana
    Beginner June 2020
    Ana ·
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    You live together and have a child BUT you're not married. My friend already had a child and was pregnant again right before they got married. They went all out so of course you should have a wedding as well. Its your decision and no ones else's.
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  • A
    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    Absolutely not! When I was 5 or 6 my mom’s best friend got married and they already had kids.
    I actually was so jealous that their kids got to witness their parents get married.
    If you want to go all out, please do it!!
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  • Jessi
    Super October 2022
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    We don't have a kid together but we've been together for 5 years, living together for almost all of that, and constantly joke that we're married without the paperwork. We are still doing the wedding we want!

    There's absolutely nothing wrong with you guys having the wedding of your dreams on your own time. And as others have said now you can also include your daughter in your day if that's something you want!

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  • Mai
    Expert May 2011
    Mai ·
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    Please do what your heart desired. Nobody is in control of your life or your decisions.

    it is your dream to have that Wedding? So have it!!!! No matter when, LOVE is always welcome to be celebrated!!!!

    Now you can have the kids and the family be part of a very important milestone in your life, dont ever hesitate to celebrate

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