Opposite Sleep Schedules

FH and I will have this problem once we are married and moved in.

His work schedule at the gold mine is pretty insane, switching from days to nights (all 12 hour shifts).

The plan is that I'll be on his day shift schedule, get up at 4:30 with him that way I'll be ready for bed when he is at night.

When he switches to night I'll stay up a few hours later until we talk on his break. Then I'll hit the sack. When he gets home we'll still have an hour or two together in bed before I get up.

He refuses to let me switch to his night schedule completely. Yes, we'll be "apart" for awhile while he's sleeping, but that's life as an adult. He realizes that sleep is more important for me than him getting his share of bed time with me.

Fh and I have a similar situation and we make the most of the time we do have together. Make a date night, catch breakfast when you can. It can be done, not saying it is easy but it can be.

That is ridiculous. I work 7p-7a. FH works day time. I would NEVER ask my FH to get on my sleep schedule. It works perfectly fine. We spend time on days off and talk when we can. We leave notes and kiss each other goodbye when we're sleeping. He worked nights for 3 years while I worked days. We literally passed each other on the road every morning while I was leaving and he was coming home.

And 3 hours is not doable. It's just not.

I'm a nurse working 7p-7a while my FH works 7a-6p.. Completely opposite schedules. I work 3 on, 4 off and the next week 4 on, 3 off. He work Tues-Sat so only Sun and Mon off. We spend every minute we have together enjoying our time and going on mini vacations or dates. We put down the phones and enjoy just talking and doing things together now. It has made us miss each other and made us closer, realizing how much we love being around one another. I will probably switch to day shift next year, but will have to take a pay cut. Right now, I love nights because I function better that way, but I hate missing time with my FH. You can make it work but it is tough. Many of us have to deal with things like this though.

I work 2am-11am M-F.

FH works 2:30pm-11:30pm Sa-W.

So we're opposite schedules, and opposite days off.

It's hard. We sometimes get an hour before and after our shifts through the week, so we make the most of Friday evenings.

We're always tired at different times and awake at different times, but you cannot expect someone to re-route their life to get more time together. You just have to find the time you have that overlaps and make the most of it.

Good luck!

I work nights, 7p to 7a, and FH works the usual 9a to 5p. Granted I work 3 nights a week- but I still miss him like crazy. We've made it work, and have been doing this schedule for about a year now. On the days I work, we make sure to have some time together before I have to leave. We simply try to maximize the time we have together. Hopefully I will have one more year of nights and I promise to myself that this will be the last time! Good luck-- it's hard but you guys can make it work!

We are on opposite schedules as well. I work from 8:10-2:30 and he works 4-12am. We don't see each other in between because he leaves at 2pm for work. When he gets home from work it's almost 1am and I'm sleeping. It sucks but you get used to it and we appreciate the time we do spend together.

I genuinely do not understand why she expects you to be on the same sleep schedule as her. That is unfair and not realistic at all.

Hubby and I haven't been on the same work schedule for years.

He currently works Friday- Tuesday from 3 PM to 11 PM with an hour commute each way.

I work Mon- Friday and I have dance in the evenings and on Saturday/Sun morning plus my gym training.

I fiercely reserve Thursday evening for him as a "no fly zone" meaning- I don't take extra classes- work outs- dates- or anything- that time is reserved solely for him.

Now we are married- I get to see him when get home for about a half a second- and in the morning- but we still only see each other Wed from 530-7 and then Thurs 5-10 PM when we sleep.

You make it work. You find compromise and you make sure the person feels special and that time is THEIRS. Date night for us is Thursday- it's not normal- but it is what it is. again- you make it work.

I just found out FH is off this Friday-Sunday! Those are my days off too!. Yay to an entire weekend off together. It is also his 30th birthday Friday! It is weekends like this that keep me going. Knowing that we eventually will have time off to spend together. When we finally do get to spend time together, it really makes it that much more special! It is definitely extremely hard but I look forward to the little time we do get to spend together.

You simply make it work.

FH has been working overnight since we met ten years ago and I work a far away 9am-6pm job that adds 4 hours of commuting to my day. Most weekdays we don't see each at ALL. (He's out the door at 6pm and I get home at 7:30pm. Not even close.) We sleep in the same bed at the same time maybe once a week. And we're constantly telling each other we miss each other but we endure it because the other option is what, dating someone else? Fuck that.

It's hard but I'm lucky in that I get over a month of time off a year so I take PTO around his schedule to give us "long weekends" here and there.

My fiancé and I have this problem. He works noon until 2 am and I work 11 at night until 8am, and both commute about an hour to and from work so we literally only see each other for an hour or two in the mornings during the work week. And sometimes when I pick up extra hours to help pay for the wedding, not at all until the next weekend. You make it work and you do what you have to do. It's not the world's greatest situation but it's what we have to do, there's a mortgage and bills that need to be paid so we have to work. I always wish that we could see each other more and the weekends are always too short, but we just keep pushing on it hopes of our schedules matching up one day in the future