Opting out of bachelorette parties

My take is that it’s an opportunity to celebrate with your people and enjoy these moments leading up to the big day. It doesn’t have to be expensive or grand, but why not have a little fun with the people who will be by your side?

I think it’s completely based on preference. Some people are really into the huge, weekend getaway bachelorettes, while some people prefer a simple night out on the town. Some people like simple evenings, such as dinner and drinks, or a sip and paint, or a sleepover at someone’s house; and some people aren’t into the idea of Bach parties at all! There is no right or wrong, just personal preference. If you don’t feel the desire to have a bachelorette celebration, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with skipping it

We haven't decided yet, but are leaning towards a combined bach since we've been together so long and our friends are intertwined.

Bach's can be so much fun, and do as much or as little as you want. Theres no rules. If you don't want one, don't have one there's nothing wrong with that either.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, I put the alcohol down years ago so I have no desire not that it’s all about that but it can lead to that and the smell now makes me sick 🤢

View Quoted Comment No wedding party but could have a big family friends dinner 😊

I didn’t have a Bach party because no one threw me one. If I were to have one I would have liked a dinner at a cute restaurant with my girlfriends.

View Quoted Comment I am sorry to hear that, some one should of stood up for you! That kinda makes me sad 😞

Same lol I am doing a relaxing spa day with my bridal party instead of a weekend bender that costs way too much money. It is YOUR wedding - you can do whatever you would like for the events leading up to it.

View Quoted Comment I’m just not wasting money on something like that when I can put it towards something more important! I hope you enjoy your spa day and congratulations 🎉🎈

I did not do a bachelorette party - totally not my style. I rarely drink and my three bridesmaids are not at all local, so just logistically it would be difficult anyway. They sort of insisted on calling a very tame axe throwing excursions with the moms a mini Bach lol. But as with everything wedding in our current age, you can just do you! Some brides love the traditional weekend long bar crawl type of party, so why not. Not for me though - I don’t regret it and you shouldn’t feel guilty whatever you do or dont do!

View Quoted Comment Thanks Ashley, I don’t drink at all, so the bar seen not for me, I’d rather do a nice dinner, or something else! Congratulations by the way 💛❤️💐

The main parties that we hear about are the wild getaways that occur over an extended weekend. If that's not your style, there is no reason to change your ways for that event. If you do anything, it should be what you are comfortable with.

The recent trend of lavish expensive Instagram/Kardashian style weekend getaways that require air travel and tons of PTO are inconvenient for many people. And they are now considered the base minimum, at least online, with the clear and direct message that if you don’t want an expensive weekend trip or choose to not attend for reasons, then you are not valid at all, either as a bride or a friend/bridesmaid. In the same breath that some people are starting to say that the weekend trips are inconvenient and overrated, you are equally “not valid” for wanting or suggesting the old school budget-friendly one night out dinner and drinks that was extremely common among older generations after the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding because that is not “lavish enough”. Honestly you can’t win so do what makes you happy and doesn’t break the bank for those attending.

That is totally fine. I will be honest, I am not a big fan of huge getaways. I don't like this trend of lavish weekend-weeklong vacations with friends and stuff. Also, good for you on staying sober, you shouldn't have to be forced to drink if you don't want to. My fiance doesn't drink himself either.

I told my sister and cousin I just want something simple and more traditional like having dinner then going to a bar or two or something that Thursday night before the wedding on Saturday.