our first night. together..!?!? HELP

Your posting is very sweet. It depends on where you feel you will be most comfortable. My venue and hotel are attached so we will stay in the hotel and rest the next day then go to Disney World! If cost is your concern talk to your MOH maybe she and your BM and friends can suprise you with a mood altering decor in your apartment that gives you the hotel feel. Rose petals are always nice and candles...you get my point. Whatever you decide...enjoy it.

I would say stay at ur apartment and make two special days of it! eat breakfast in bed, make each other a special dinner, rent romance movies...flowers on the bed, it can be better then a hotel. spoil each other

The thing about me FH is that i know he will do the rose petals and all that if we do stay at our appartment... he would even have his BM deliver us breakfast the next morning, he really is the best and most amazing guy, duh thats why im marrying him, so i dont worry about that... i just worry i guess about my comfort in a hotel room... will i feel cheap, u know??

Good thinking andrea, im going to look up hotels in the area to see what we are up against, price wise...

Well Im not psychic lol. But in my opinion it is SOOO much more romantic to stay in a hotel and just go all out if you can afford it. We are going to stay in a hotel and get the honeymoon suite. Your wedding dress should be taken to your apartment or preservers by your maid of honor the day after the wedding. For this reason I am changing into differant clothes after the reception. You want your wedding night to be memorable. You will spend many nights with you husband after you are married in you apartment or house. You want the wedding night to stand out among all others. That is just my opinion. Good luck and Congrats

Julie, you also bring up a good point... and darn you for not being psychic, not that i believe in that at all anyways lol, see this is why im torn....

what to do, what to do...

oh and the dress, since we arnt leaving right away, i'll have it with me and have my mom pick it up from our appartment the next day, or give it to my sis/moh when she takes us to the airprt.

I always prefer hotels (good ones of course!) because of the things you stated. You have no responsibility to pick up, do dishes, answer the phone, take the dog out, etc... A nice hotel can be very romantic, and there is nothing to focus on but the two of you! If your only choice is a super 8 though...don't do it Maybe there is a place that has a jacuzzi tub and a spa where you can get a couples massage the next day or something.

We'll be far from home so we're staying at a nice bed and breakfast for 2 nights after the wedding.

I think a really nice hotel would be perfect--at the really good places, you feel so taken care of and cozy. Honestly, in your spot, I would splurge on this. You only get that first night one time, and you won't even remember the extra $$ or so you paid for the room in a really upscale hotel a few weeks later. Plus, you may not want to see the BM the morning after your first night together--that could be a little awkward!

AWWWWW!!!! That is wonderful!!! My FH and I plan on going to our new apartment. He is moving in July 1st and I will join him for the first time after the wedding. We want our first time to be in our own bed. Not to mention that we will not be leaving until two days later. A hotel is not really a financial option for us..and for sentimental reasons, we want to be home...

I feel you can be just as romantic in your own place as a hotel room. It's what you make of it. Mine and my FH first night as husband and wife will be in a hotel. Then again our wedding and recepetion is being held at the hotel on a lake. We are making a entire weekend out of it with our family with boating, jet ski's, bon fires, bbq's etc. Good Times!!!

I think it depends on what your costs look like our honeymoon doesnt start till 2 days after the wedding & we decided to stay in a hotel for those two nights we didnt like the idea of just spending the wedding night at home. That way we wont be back at the apartment until after the honeymoon. We did take in account to the upside of being able to fully relex in a hotel and not have to worry about stuff back at home.

I feel like all of your points are very good ones... which is making it so much harder!!!

and jessica, the best man would leave our order on the door step and text my FH once hes outta site so he could grab it.. kinda stealth/secret agent like LOL. because we did talk about that also... this is actually turning out to be a very hard decision

Soon-to-be-MrsAdegbola, thats alittle what i am thinking we marry on saturday and honeymoon on monday... but then i just dont know.... ahhh!! hahaha

Will I would go back to the apartment. Make sure not much drinkins is involve. And Save the money for my honeymoon. Plus you will be so tired after all is over.

Hotel Definitely! Much more special then staying at an apt. There will only be one first night and many other nights at the apt. Plus if your living in an apt im assuming that you'll eventually move out meaning it wont be home forever. So not that special. Plus no matter what you will have too clean after each other and cook ect. I think no matter the price the hotel is worth it. Well at least the first night!

This sounds like a very personal decision with no wrong answer, and everyone has made good points. I just want to add that if your hangup about the hotel is having to cart your dress around, why not have a "farewell outfit"? This used to be common practice, where the bride and groom would change into less formal attire and then be "sent off" by their guests at the end of the reception. This way, your MOH, mom, sister, or friend could take your dress with them from the reception and you wouldn't have to worry about it. Regardless of where you choose to stay, your first night together will be incredibly special...Go with your instincts when it comes to where to stay.

If your reception is at a hotel, it may be wonderful to just walk up and relax on location.Especially after champagne.

If not I'd go to your apartment and feel comfy.

On The actual wedding night most couples are not thinking romance as much as WOW my feet are killing me, LOL I have been designing weddings for 25 years, and I hear from all my wonderful couples that they couldnt even think straight until the next day! LOL

If you are off for a romantic honeymoon, you will have plenty of time for hotels and resort fun. That breakfast in bed and more will be more enjoyable.

Shell, if it's a finacial thing maybe your wedding party can chip in and pay for it, or an uncleaunt, godparents something of that sort, I am a hotel person myself. No dishes, cooking etc... if you do decide to stay at a hotel find things around town that you always think of seeing but never get around ex. art exhibit. butterfly farm, winery etc. Good luck

I would say appartment. My main reason is that you will be most comfortable in your home, in your bed. To this day I always get a little paranoid that the cleaning lady will try and walk in or the people next door will have kids and the possible "thin wall" thing. I just cant fully relax in hotels, even the nice ones. Plus no matter how nice they are the beds are never the same as my own. LOL.

It sounds like you have a lot of people willing to make your home even more special for you two. And when it comes to the breakfast thing, it might even be fun to cook breakfast together the next morning and climb back into bed to eat it while watching a movie.

I do have a favorite thing about hotels though... the jumbo bath tubs or hot tubs you can get in the rooms. Those are the best.

So i think i am deciding on staying in our appartment... i like that it was mentioned that we will be in a hotel our whole honemoony, and it would be nice to enjoy our appartment together before we jet off to mexico :] i cant wait!

and thanks for all your input, every comment made me thinking even more! haha <3

I think that you should stay at a hotel! You dont get married everyday, so make it a special time!! You will have plenty of time to stay at your new apartment later on. Good luck.