our first night. together..!?!? HELP

Your wedding night is very special. Staying in a hotel can definitely allow you to continue to luxuriate and concentrate on each other. If the expense is an issue, this can be a lovely wedding gift from family members and they can help with practicalities like transporting your dress from the reception site, too. It used to be a very regular custom for the bride and groom to change into their "going away" clothes before leaving the reception.

My Mom and Dad gave us a night in a fun hotel on the beach when we were married at their place in Florida. The hotel was only a few minutes away but our "honey-moon" night and breakfast on the beach are a lasting and treasured memory.

Best wishes for a wonderful wedding, a wonderful wedding night, and a wonderful life together!

Margaret and Bill Sneddon

The Hudson Heights Duo - Harp and Flute

www.HudsonHtsDuo.com

New York, NY

If I can be honest here, 17 years ago (in two weeks) my hubby and I had done so much ourselves that we were glad we didn't pay for a hotel. We went back to our place and once we hit the bed, fell asleep in each other's arms. There was more fun in the morning after, but we were too champagned and tired to even try that night! Trust me, it happens more often than people will admit.

Lol I have been living with my FH since we got engaged idk what we will do for our first night together as husband and wife

I don't know if you've already made your decision, but I'd love to put in my two cents, because it reminds me so much of me and my husband. Our wedding night was our first night as well and although he moved into our apartment a couple months before the wedding, I didn't move in until afterward. We chose to stay at a hotel and got a hot tub suite. He and his best man went early in the day to check in and decorate the room for me and it was BEAUTIFUL! We left from there straight to our honeymoon, so we didn't just pack for the night. It was great to leave everything behind in the morning and head off without worrying about anything. His parents also went by the hotel after we left to get anything we left behind (they had to return his tux as well) There was nothing to clean, no piles of gifts we felt obligated (and excited) to go through. What I also liked about it was that it preserved the specialness of that first night. Congratulations and good luck!

My sister/moh said that she was going to pull some things together... so she might be putting us up in a hotle room for the night.

its not about money, its about feeling comfortable together either in our bed or in a strange bed that has been used by hundreds of other people. and not having to worry about packing for just one night. i will be moving all my stuff over the few days before the wedding so it'd be nice to not have to move and pack for the night and pack for the honeymoon also....

we'll see...

Hey girl! i bet you are so excited! My best friend just got married this last friday and i was her MOH and her and her husband had the same situation. What she ended up doing was staying at home. They thought it would be really sweet to spend their first night together in their new apartment. The bridesmaids and I helped out by getting the keys the night before and going to their new apartment to "set it up" for them. We had rose petals everywhere, candles, champane, strawberries, whipped cream, we made swan bath towels to put on the bed (really easy to do), chocolates on the pillows, a "hotel thank you note", petals leading to the bathroom and filled the bathtub with water and petals and floating candles. we left bubble bath on the side and put candles and massage oil on the rim of the tub. it actually turned out amazing and they had a blast! I have pictures if you'd like to see . Hope that helps your decision.

And one more thing... staying at your place is one less night you have to pack for and you don't have to worry about leaving your dress in the car or whatever when you leave to go on your honeymoon. and theres no cost to stay in your apartment.

Whoa can you guys take care of that for us too?? haha that sounds so lovely! maybe i will talk to my sis and have her talk with the best man to make that possible instead of a hotel i think i would really like that better :]

Stay in the hotel and have a great time!

My friends just got married and they had the same dilemma.They ended up spending their first night together at their new apartment and then left early the next morning for a nice bed and breakfast a couple hours away. I thought it was the perfect combination of the two.

My man and I are in the same boat, it will be our first night together. Right now I'm leaning more towards the hotel, just because if we stay at the apartment we will have to worry about taking the dogs out....etc. I think the hotel room will be alot more memorable and not as stressful. Also whenever you are booking the room mention that it is your wedding night and don't be afraid to beg for upgrades!! lol, I've read online and some wedding books that telling people its your wedding night/honeymoon will help get you upgrades for less or possibliy free! I honestly think that if we were to spend it at the house it wouldn't be as special, and since its only your first time once, might as well make it special and memorable Congrats!