Our rsvp date is here!

Our wedding is the same day and our RSVP deadline is this Friday. We are waiting on more than half our guests to RSVP. My fiance decided to make a Facebook event page and added everyone that we invited to our wedding to this page. It is a private page so only those invited can see it. Some people that haven't sent back their RSVPs have said they were attending on our Facebook page. It just annoys me because we have no idea if some of these people are bringing their significant others, if they have any food allergies, or are attending the breakfast afterwards. My fiance was hoping this would get people to RSVP which it has worked kind of. This was definitely not my idea because I am still going to have to reach out to people even if they put attending on our Facebook page to confirm everything with them.

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We have quite a few people who aren't on Facebook left to RSVP (or any social media at all) but the good thing is I have their emails & phone numbers. Our online RSVP gives them the option to say food allergies & they have to RSVP for their significant other. I'm glad you got some responses via Facebook! I prefer to call/text/email personally since I think that holds people accountable a lot more. Between my mother, his father, my groom & me, I don't think it will be that bad & we left ourselves a lot of time. Yay date twins!

View Quoted Comment I definitely plan on reaching out to those you don't RSVP via mail. We only did mail. I didn't like the idea of creating this Facebook event page because I feel like people won't think they have to RSVP like we want them to and that just putting attending on Facebook is good enough. We have a pretty good amount of time, but my fiance is going to Alaska at the end of the month so we have a meeting with our venue the day he leaves which is the day our final count is due and the seating chart.

Thank you for sharing! It's so nice that you seem to be so positive about your guest count a declines. Hopefully, those who cannot attend will send you a card or gift closer to your wedding date.

Our RSVP due date is 1 month from today, July 10th and there's still a lot of people who need to RSVP. On my side, I am waiting for rsvps from 25 households, 43 guests total. We are waiting for pretty much my fiance's entire guest list to RSVP. I believe they don't think they have to send back their RSVP card.

Towards the end of the week, we'll shoot everyone a quick reminder.

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Yeah, I was really hoping doing the stamped/addressed ones AND the website would make everyone RSVP but I am not surprised I have to contact people. I know that's just how things go! I am surprised how many older people/married families I have to contact because I thought it would be more young single men but they all sent theirs back.

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We knew we could afford it if the whole guest list came, but didn't want that to happen haha! Now we can have a full open bar vs. just beer & wine, and have a few more appetizers at cocktail hour and nicer welcome bags for guests at the hotel. We are all about guest experience so I'm happy we can spread our budget a little more.

We did get some cards & gifts, so it for sure wasn't everyone! Just a few "no" without even a "sorry I can't make it" which surprised me.

We received 29 responses in the last week, so that was great. We had a steady amount of a few per week via mail so that was nice. We chose not to reach out before the RSVP date, I was worried people would find it rude since the date wasn't here yet. But I wouldn't be annoyed if someone reminded me and I hadn't responded yet so I'm sure you'll be fine!

How did you get a transportation company that will take your final head count this close? Everyone I contact wants numbers and payment 2-3 months out. I am losing my mind!

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We put a deposit on three 55 person buses. The deposit is fully refundable up to 30+ days out. So we paid $600 in deposits and told them we would cancel as our date got closer. They are a really well reviewed company and we are so happy we found them. Each bus costs $1,151. We also reserved two smaller buses to take the bridesmaids & groomsmen to the venue, then a getaway car for us at the end of the night. I think they were more willing to work with us since they knew regardless we would need at least 1 large bus, the 2 smaller buses, and the getaway car. Then the other 1-2 larger buses possibly. I did contact about 10 companies before I found one that worked for us though.

I'm not sure of the people amount, but I think we had to follow up with 20 households out of around 90. I am definitely more aware of the timeliness of my RSVP to other people's weddings now haha.

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Me too! My fiance said the same thing the other day, that we would never send an RSVP back later than 1 week after getting it haha! I'm just so surprised couples that have done a big wedding would not send one back, knowing the stress it causes.

View Quoted Comment That's great that you were able to enhance your bar and apps! Food, drinks, and music always make for a great party/celebration!

Everyone on our guest list are family or friends that we are very close to and know well; so I'm not concerned with anyone being offended or upset because we sent a reminder text. I've already gotten a few people who told me that they've had it in their bag and keep forgetting to drop it in the mailbox. So I'm sure there's some people out there who would appreciate a reminder. Everyone's pretty laid back so I'm not concerned about that.

Can't wait to see how everything comes together for you!

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Yes!!! We were shocked by that with our wedding as well. Honestly, the people that had been married recently/were planning an upcoming wedding were some of the WORST RSVPers (not a word but I'll make it one haha). Some responded promptly, but most of them had to be contacted after the RSVP date.

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Yeah at this point I'd be happy with people texting us saying they are going or not, I don't even need the RSVP card back haha! Thank you! You too!

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So weird! I'll for sure vow to never become one of those people!

Thank you for the update! I'm curious to see how our RSVP's turn out.

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I was too! We didn't receive ANY for the first two weeks after we sent them out, I was mortified since a lot of forums said they received theirs the week after. Then after that, they started steadily coming in and never stopped. I think our invites just took longer to reach everyone since they were going to so many states.

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So far this is what we have:

Yes: 74

No: 2

Non Response: 57

We are TOTALLY shocked by the number of "Yes's" we have received versus "No's". About half our guest list is from out of town, and our wedding is on a Friday night. We are expecting more of the "No's" to come later on towards our deadline (July 19th) but so far we are totally shocked. I'm glad people on WW forums mentioned to be prepared for 100% or near 100% attendance!

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That's awesome! I don't have any negative feelings towards Friday night weddings as long as they are in town. It's pretty easy for me to leave work early on a Friday so that wouldn't deter us from going. It may if we have to travel out of state and miss all day Friday, but not in town. I'm glad you prepared!

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We've been to some Friday weddings and I actually didn't mind having the rest of the weekend to go home and relax. I was hoping we would be around 110ish guests (we invited 133), and a few people we were almost sure wouldn't say yes have so far, so I'll update everyone once the deadline passes!

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I was in a Thursday wedding in 2017. They invited 100 and 75 came! Yeah I know I should wait probably until the 13/14 to reach out but I'll be starting tomorrow bright & early haha!