Our Wedding Officiant

My friend is Muslim her husband is christain. They had a non denomination officiant and he did both the prayers they requested.
They also felt that even though their places of worship might not give them formal recognition that God would. I think it's becoming very popular to go this route as many couple's don't have the funds or time to do what the church wants to recongize marriage. I'd just be upfront with the officiant about your situation they've likely seen it before.
Also could you inquire about a Catholic Deacon doing the ceremony? Some places let them preform outside the church, but not all.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for all this helpful information! Reaching out to people who can relate has been a great source of comfort and assurance. My cousin is a Deacon in a different Dioceses. I spoke to him and he was incredibly pertinacious. He told us we’d be missing out on the most important part of the ceremony which for Catholics is Holy Communion. To be 100% honest, I believe the Catholic Church is doing themselves a severe disservice. Their strict regulations I’ve noticed are full of hypocrisy in some form causing lots of couples to entertain alternative options. I agree with your sentiments 100%

View Quoted Comment I agree. I left the church many moons ago after attending Catholic high school. I think the church should reconsider it's regulations on marriage because it'd preserve membership.
It's unfortunate about your cousin though, you'd think they'd be a little more understanding, especially as your problem was money not theological.

We worked with a nondenominational officiant who stayed true to our wishes. We had three meetings prior to our wedding and we had specific thoughts: no wording on either one of us serving/obeying one another, no mention of children, and no mention of any deity

our officiant crafted an amazing ceremony that was precisely what we wanted.

View Quoted Comment Couldn’t agree more! Hate to say it but to be blunt... the Catholic Church needs to stop speaking for God. They have no right. The mere fact that they turn couples of interfaith away is not Christian and we frown upon that tremendously. Like my fiancé said, “God isn’t only found in a building with four walls and a roof, he is everywhere!” Wishing you all the best! You’ve been such a great help!

We did, and it was perfect. Ours was a hired pro, but simply an ordained minister certified to perform marriages. She wrote the ceremony script, but worked with us 100% along the way. Before creating the script she asked what we wanted and didn’t want included. After her first draft of the script she sent it to us for edits. It was really awesome and our guests LOVED our ceremony.

We’re doing the same thing our minister is non domination. He’s actually a HS assistant principal. FH is Catholic and I’m Baptist. We’re having our wedding at a Baptist Church. But we’re combining our two different backgrounds together. We’re not holding a communion service. I personally think you can do what you think is best at your wedding.

FHs best friend is getting ordained for our wedding. We're non-denominational and couldn't imagine a stranger performing our wedding.

Just so you know, you can still get "validly" married through the church without physically having your wedding at the church - meaning you will likely only have to pay for the time the deacon/priest spends with you guys in counseling which, might I add, is WAY worth it and the best thing I think my FH and I could've done for ourselves and our marriage. I know getting married in the church looks like a headache but once you get in there and sit down with whoever is in charge of marriages, they can lay all your options out for you and it is not so bad Also you must know what you are paying is a stipend - it's not a set in stone "price", if you can't afford it you need to talk to them and tell them what you CAN afford - we did that and they lowered it no questions asked.