Out of state invites to bridal shower?

Given the circumstances, I think you'll be okay not sending invites to FH's family!

I would send invites to his immediate family, but with a note acknowledging that they live far enough away that you know coming is unlikely, but you didn't want to leave them out. Generally speaking, inviting anyone who isn't immediate family or in the bridal party who lives far away annoys me, and I advise against it. But family is a bit different. Your FMIL might feel left out if she's not invited.

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View Quoted Comment That sounds good. But side question, isnt it proper etiquette to invite those that are invited to wedding and are local? Family or not?

View Quoted Comment Oh, yes! Absolutely! I was talking entirely about non locals.

I’m in a situation like this as well and was torn on out of state invites as 90% of my friends live 1-8 hours away. My FH and sister’s (co-MOH) said to put them on the list and then let them make the decision. I’m going to send a message to my girls after the invites have gone out just saying something like please do not feel obligated to come as I know travel is tough.

I'm glad you brought this up because my fsil and fmil just told me today the date of my bridal shower they are hosting. Both asked me if my guest was complete because I should invite all the ladies invited to the wedding. However 10 or so live 4 hours away and I'm sure wouldn't and couldn't travel for the shower that far away. So I didn't give them those people's information and they seem to think they should and if they can't make it that is their choice. I feel bad. I wouldn't want anyone to feel obligated

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Yes! My FMIL lives out of state (as well as a few of my other close relatives) and I plan to have my bridal shower hostess send them an invitation. It will make them happy to feel included!