My fiancé is from London and he chose to invite only a handful of folks that he felt he should invite, not expecting all of them to come. Well guess what - they all are! While it is OUR wedding this is more important to me (he would have been happy to go to City Hall) and he is all about making me happy.
And yet. Suddenly all of those things that people warned me about are starting to pop up and make me think we should forget the whole thing and in fact just go to City Hall.
One London couple that we are surprised are attending seems to be pushing back because we are having an adults only wedding. And the funny part is years ago, so did they! I was apologetic in my reply and cited budget as an issue, not to mention a cocktail format and even offered to provide childcare. No response but they seem to have sent another friend to ask my fiancé separately.
One of his other London friends has suggested to him some other people that he really should also invite as well. I think this is highly inappropriate. Even my mom who is paying for most of it is not imposing her suggestions. And these are people that my fiancé has hand not so much as an email exchange for 15 years and suddenly he is wondering if he is making people feel bad and should invite them. I am highly irritated. While it's great for them to want to come, it's our wedding and not a boondoggle trip for people who are no longer in his life. Nor just an excuse for that family vacation to NY. Our door has always been open for that. This is our wedding.
So how do I stick to my guns and not feel like queen biatch? I am used to putting others first but I don't want to just this one time. We just wanted to have a party our way. Thoughts welcome. I am stressed.
