Out of town guests

Yeah, I think you're well within your rights to not host guests leading up to your wedding. Do you have a hotel block you could redirect her to? Or even just a recommendation? Something like, "I'm sorry, that won't be possible, but we do have a block at [hotel]/I know [hotel] is relatively low cost/I can recommend [hotel]!" would be be my go to.

I agree with PP, just be polite and let them know that it won’t be possible for them to stay with you due to being busy with the wedding and then going on the honeymoon. Advise them of AirBNBs in the area and hotels.

Agree with the above since you will have so much going on! We are living with my parents to save money for the wedding. We are renting an airbnb for our bridal party (many oot members) and us for the last few days. My mom will be having my nana and bf there, my uncle will have my other gparents there, and the rest will have to get hotels or something! So maybe they can ask skmeone else but for you guys and your place, i'd def say no

Agree. My MoH is staying with us for the couple of days before the wedding, but she's getting a hotel for Saturday night, if she can't get a late flight home that night. The deal is we get the house just to ourselves after the wedding. Leading up to the wedding is a little different.

Nope, nope, nope. Tell them (and everyone else) your house is full.

We had friends from outside the US stay with us the week before our DW and it was exhausting! My hubby then got sick two days before our wedding.

I agree with PP that you definitely have the right to not host people at your home so close to the wedding! If anyone asks to stay with you, explain you are unable to do so but you can't wait to celebrate with them!

Just tell her exactly what you told us. You're definitely excited to celebrate with her and you wish you could host, but you're not able to.

Just be completely honest with her and tell her how you feel about the whole situation I’m pretty sure she might be understanding, that your gonna be to busy that day for one getting ready in the morning for hair & makeup and getting your dress on. Plus you don’t need the stress of having too many people in your house it should only be your parents or siblings or whoever you choose to be with you to help get you ready. Plus it’s actually common sense that when there’s a wedding event those guests even family members should already know not to even ask or bother the bride or groom when they got so much going on already. They should of called around from other relatives or look for their own place to stay first before asking you. I have family members who are staying with other family members and plus my venue gave me a package deal on hotel rates for my out of town guests. Or some people are just going back home who live locally and my out of town family members are leaving the next day after the wedding. It’s just a few advice you can take from everyone who has responded to your question hun your the bride 👰🏻 you have every right to NO to who ever you want even if it’s family it’s not that your being mean or rude you’re just being honest. The day of my wedding day my sisters are spending the night with me at my parents house I have 3 sisters one is flying from Texas and my other two sisters are coming from Irvine, California they live together my younger sister and my second oldest sister along with her husband and her two kids ages 3 & 2 they are helping me get ready because they are my support system they will be with me to help not get nervous while I’m getting ready for my big day as I’m getting my hair & make up done and my mom helping me put my wedding dress on. So it’s ok there’s opportunities for you to choose from here but if your cousin can’t find anyone or anywhere to stay then that’s something she should figure out, but I can understand why she wants to stay with you maybe financially she can’t afford a hotel but it doesn’t hurt to just talk to her and see if there’s something she can do maybe by all the advice everyone has given you maybe can help you help her out 😊

Tell her you cant. Weve had a few people ask us and my mom got mad that I said no. We are also leaving for our honey moon the next day.

I agree with the PPs and just tell her no. I had out-of-state family ask my mom if they could stay at her house in NJ the week of the wedding (my FH and I are getting married in Philly) and she told them no and explained how busy it was going to be and how she was also staying in Philly the weekend of the wedding. She, too, didn’t want the added stress of hosting out-of-town guests during such a big week. So she gave them info for hotel blocks and Airbnb. I think they were understanding.

Just politely say no and tell them you'll start looking into nice hotels

I would just say something like "Hey! I'm so excited you are coming. Unfortunately that will be a super busy week for us, and we are leaving for our honeymoon the very next day. Our guest rooms are packed with wedding decor & honeymoon packing. If you need help finding a hotel or airbnb, let me know and I can do some research!"

Sure you can stay with us. You'll be sharing the guest room with our other 249 guests. Hope you like it cozy! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Who even asks this. Dear lord people have no common sense! Why in the world ask the bride and groom to stay with them for THEIR wedding when they'll be busy? Just tell them straight up you don't have the room, are leaving for your honeymoon, and are super busy with a rehearsal and what not.

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These are my thoughts exactly!!

Are you planning to reserve any hotel blocks for your out of town guests? If so, problem solved!! If not, maybe you should look into it, especially if you think this won't be the only request like this you get.

Just be straight up with her, maybe she’ll understand and if she doesn’t then that’s ok! People tend to want you to place your best interest in them but never look at the big pic in your interests or wishes....they have to respect your wishes and esp that you are married

If you have a lot of out of town guests maybe set up a hotel block to get a discount.? Then just tell her about that and that because of the chaos of the wedding you wont be able to host her