Overcoming wedding planning regrets

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Well it's good that you have a plan. Our venue literally can't fit over 95 and really, 80 comfortably so I'm super worried. FH was like "Can't we just pay more for extra people?" I was like nope. We are going to be packed in like sardines lol. Right now we are inviting 109. His point was that a lot of his family won't make the trip from Toronto. I see his point but still, its stressful because people are unpredictable.

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I agree, it is stressful. Our venue is a barn type building out in the country. The owner said the capacity is 200, but they don't really "care" if we go over. However, I don't see us being able to fit more than 160 comfortably. There were so many things I forgot to take into consideration when making our list. Wishing I would have been more thorough. Oh well, our back up plan is to open up these two giant garage doors, set a wedding tent up to it, and put tables in there. That way everyone is still somewhat together. It isn't a perfect plan, but it's all we got. Just hoping we don't have to go that route though.

View Quoted Comment Same with my original one! We had done literally 0 research on the quality of stones and basically just walked in, saw a pretty one on display and were like oooh I like it! Lol. Sooo dumb in hindsight! 😖 I think the biggest lesson learned is to stick to your original vision. I had always pictured “my engagement ring” as a solitaire, I shouldn’t have gone against that!

I regret the amount of STDs we sent - we should have done tiered invites. I don’t think they will all come but i’m still worried we’ll get more than we’re expecting.

I sorta regret our choice in venue - they only allow certain caterers and we will spend more on food than we thought. But I know it will be worth it because it’s PERFECT for us.

I think with any regrets I just try to remind myself it's not the end of the world. I know, easier said than done.

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My cousin (who's wedding was 1 week after I got engaged) used said photographer and I loved her work and figured it would be better to hire someone I can trust versus someone I just found online. PLUS, the photographers I did email online were unresponsive.

This photographer does work between both cities (her hometown and where I am), but it's just the logistics of arranging my engagement pictures that is frusterating.

No regrets for this wedding so far, because I learned from my first wedding. I was married about 23 years ago, in my early 20’s. I invited every friend and family member, and allowed my mom to invite all her friends. I paid for my wedding, so I wasn’t expecting her to invite hordes of people. The numbers blew up. In hindsight, I paid thousands of unnecessary dollars to invite people who didn’t really add meaning to the day for me or my past fiancée. This time, it’s close family members and a handful of our closest friends. Totaling around 50 people. Every person there will be someone that either I or my fiancée has a special connection with. Far more meaningful, and far less expensive.