A really good family friend is getting married on June 25, 2022, in Chicago. My wedding is July 9, 2022, two weeks later and also in Chicago. Our dads were roommates in college, and this friend's family has become like a second family to me, and we grew up spending time with our dads' extended network of friends from when they were in college. I wouldn't dream of missing her wedding, so I set my wedding date close to hers on purpose because I live in Spain and can't afford to fly back to the US twice in one year (if I were to have set my wedding date for later in the year). This also works for my parents because they now live in Montana and can't go back and forth to Chicago too frequently, either, and for my FH's family, many of whom are teachers who can only take vacation in July/August (an August date wasn't viable for us for other reasons).
Now I'm wondering...was this rude of me? Will it be weird for us to have our weddings so close together, or possibly be perceived as me taking away from her spotlight by getting married two weeks later? Probably about half of the guest list for each of our sides will overlap, so I'm also wondering if that will be annoying for the people invited to both weddings. All of the overlaps are local to Chicago except one or two sets of guests, but I'm wondering if people will find it annoying to have three weekends in a row of wedding/4th of July/wedding.
My dad says that it'll be an excuse for the whole gang to get back together again for these two events (and they do tend to love any excuse to get together), but I'm starting to second guess my decision and am worried that I'll be perceived as rude for not leaving more breathing room between the two weddings, especially with a holiday weekend in between. I mentioned to this engaged friend that my FH and I were also considering a date in summer 2022, and she seemed totally fine with it and confirmed that attending my wedding was a priority for her, too, but I haven't told her the exact date we've booked yet. We've already booked our venue, so the date is pretty solidly set, Covid willing.
Thoughts? Am I completely overthinking this?
