Overwhelmed and worried about how the wedding will turn out

Hi Lindsey!! For what it’s worth, very bride feels this way. For me, I can’t tell you how many times I yelled out “I JUST WANT TO ELOPE” during my wedding planning. Can you tell me if there’s something very specific about the backyard wedding that feels to you it won’t be “wedding” enough? Is it decor, music or if budget was no object what you would like to change?


It it helps, backyard weddings are gorgeous in my opinion and I have been to several that were amazing ❤️

View Quoted Comment Thank you Katie! I honestly can’t pinpoint what exactly it is that makes me worried it won’t feel “wedding enough”. I guess I just have this idea that if I had some sort of formal venue it would feel more “special”? I’ve never known anyone who had a backyard wedding or been to one myself so I think I’m just having trouble picturing it.

View Quoted Comment If it helps, a lot of venues are the same - same ballroom, same setup and can be cookie cutter. Backyard weddings are a unique location and no one will be able to replicate ❤️ A lot of celebrities do private backyard weddings and in movies like Steel Magnolias, Wedding Crashers, and Father of the Bride had backyard weddings in them. If you need creative input, feel free to send pics of your backyard and not to toot my own horn, but I’m very creative and used to do interior design. I’d be happy to brainstorm with you!! 🌿🌸💜🌱

Hi Lindsey! I would think that it won't matter so much to your friends and family what the wedding looks like - they will just be happy to be there celebrating you and your partner! In terms of having a vision for the wedding, what I did was create a powerpoint slide that has pictures of all the main details of what I have envisioned for the ceremony and reception: Table settings, centerpieces, bouquets and boutonnieres, cake, additional decor, attire, etc. It has helped me to make things cohesive and ease my mind regarding how things will look once put together. One of the best ways to turn anywhere into an event space is by making it feel more intimate, whether that is by having a full tent set up, or just a few shepard's hooks holding up some string lights to semi -enclose an area. I would love to have a backyard wedding, and I am sure your wedding will turn out beautifully!

Hi Lindsey,

we are doing a DIY wedding at our church. The reception will be outside, so it is kind of like a backyard wedding.

I totally hear you. I also feel overwhelmed by all the decisions and details. A lot of details I don't even care about but it's still me who has to make the decisions. I am also not sure how everything will come together. We are only 2 months away and there is still a ton to do.

You are not alone. And I think what you feel is totally normal. Do you have help? What are the things that would make it feel special to you? What kind of decoration or little extra would make it feel more special and like a wedding. Maybe focus on one or two things you can do and effort to make it special for you. I am sure it will be lovely.