So FH and I went to put our deposit down this weekend for our venue. I loved the venue it will host my ceremony and reception. My mom wanted to see if so I allowed her to go with us. She was a brat the entire time because we could not enter the banquet hall because they were having the carpets cleaned. She complained about minor aspects (small dancefloor, no built in bar) which I did not care about. I ultimately decided I would still put the deposit as I loved the venue and it was in our budget.
Mother in law was invited as well but could not make it due to work, so FH sent her photos during the visit. When we get home his father calls him and offered to pay for our venue. However, the catch was we had to chose another venue (he would give me back the 500 nonrefundable deposit) because this one was not nice enough and didn't hold enough guest(according to Mother in law who wasn't there in person). He also made forced (guilt trip) Fiance to add his twin brothers to wedding party even though he isnt close with them (not a big deal I like his brothers but now wedding party is larger). He stated he would pay for the suits for all the groomsmen.
While I am very appreciative of the help because we are both on tight budgets I feel like the wedding is everyones vision now. Mine was small intimate wedding (small bridal party, small venue, no dramatic decor etc.) now it has become large wedding (large bridal party, large venue and guest list, dramatic decor etc).
Fiance wants the financial so is okay with making changes and I want it too but now feel I have no control over my wedding.
