Paperless?

Electronic save the dates and invitations give me an extremely casual vibe. In saying that, I think they're definitely more appropriate for save the dates than invitations, especially since save the dates aren't a necessity anyway. I would consider doing traditional paper invites and online RSVP's. Not completely paperless, but at least cutting back some.

Go paperless, if that is what you want. I personally like the tradition of sending physical invites, but to each their own. In this day and age, there is nothing wrong with being more modern and tech savvy. You know your crowd, and as long as they would all get the electronic invite, then I don't really see a problem with it. Only thing I would suggest, is have some sort of electronic reminder set up to alert them when the wedding gets close, since they won't have a physical reminder to look at.

I agree with Danielle, if you really know your crowd and you know they will have access to computers I'd go paperless.

I'm on my computer all day, and I still forget about emails I get. So unless I was super focused when I opened the email for the wedding or it was someone I knew really well, I'd probably forget about it.

I’m fine with e-Save the dates, online rsvp is cool, but I still don’t at all like a digital invite. It gives off a distinct impression (super casual), and there’s such a potential for it to get sent to spam or overlooked. Having a tangible invite helps me internalize and remember the date too. Paper invites don’t have to break the bank. I also know a lot of people who are sentimental and want the keepsake. Sure MOST guests will toss them eventually, but my parents never will, my grandparents never will, my husband’s parents never will etc.

It's everyone's business. If you want it electronically, that's your business. But I still love the invitation text. It's still tradition. And I like it

I would love to do this because I never delete emails but lose paper regularly. My FH is against e-invites and I don’t actually know what would work best for our guests so we will stick with tradition. I will probably have the option for electronic RSVPs.

Paperless Save The Date, RSVP, program (or skip it), & menu are fine! 🙂

But unless you’re having a very casual/cheap backyard wedding and don’t mind if guests show up in shorts or forget to show up then I highly suggest a paper wedding invite. You can design one on Vistaprint, Zazzle or Shutterfly then buy it during a 40-60% off sale.

No there’s nothing wrong with going paperless. Many people are starting to do so.

I meshed the two - had an invite, but everything else was paperless. I think they CAN be tacky, but if you put a little effort into a nice website, and not just some joeblow threw it together, it can be amazing and just as formal.

At the end of the day it's what represents you! We send out both paper and emailed christmas cards, so having people rsvp online is really nothing new to them. They are used to us being in the new age here....

I would 100% recommend taking a couple extra minutes and doing a nice website though -- I used the Wedding Wire one on here and it looks great on both computer and smartphone!

We wanted to go semi-paperless, saving trees, and did paper Save the Dates and will do e-mail invitations. E-vites are just so much easier in my mind and as soon as I have a couple's website and RSVP then I'd toss the invite anyways. Save the Dates are for the fridge so I think it's nice to have a hard copy of those but that's just my opinion. Our wedding is also in a forest so more casual vibe but not so casual that guests will be in jeans. I expect we'll have some older guests who would prefer a paper invite but they can deal. My friends went all paperless for their wedding last year, gorgeous beach venue, and they loved not having to deal with mailing anything. Their website and e-vites were beautiful and suited them.

You do you!

We actually just didn’t do save the dates. We had a short engagement and sent out beautiful invitations. This definitely saved us a good chunk of change!

Paperless for me. I dont give a darn what its considered. Its cheap. I think a paper invite is a waste. When I get one in the mail I opened it, read it, put the information in my phone rip it up and throw it in the garbage can

How about doing invites on recycled paper? Our wedding planner found us that felt so luxurious ..

Some of the comments on this thread are downright hilarious. An evite does not signify a backyard barbecue wedding. I’m getting married on the grounds of a castle and our reception Is at one of the best restaurants outside of New York City. Everyone coming to our wedding knows where our ceremony and reception are being held and nobody would show up in shorts and sneakers expecting a barbecue simply because they got an invite on their computer… Give me a break

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Thanks Lauren for this. I didn't feel like paperless meant shorts either. I just think it can be a big waste of paper and money but my FH feels they're necessary ... shrugg

View Quoted Comment It’s one of the dumbest things I have ever heard. I went to three gorgeous weddings in the last couple years... all sent evites.

I would only do this for an informal backyard event

i think invitations let people get an idea of “tone” of event and I think digital save the dates are informal but invitations I would perceive as outright casual

is the wedding formal?

View Quoted Comment I don’t think anyone would honestly wear this to a wedding unless it was specifically requested (ask for jeans and boots for cowboy theme or something)

as a guest, I (personally) think I would perceive the event as less formal if I got an emailed invitation and not a physical one... I completely agree my overall impression would be based off all factors combined

For example I would personally think that events with the exact same high end locations and times but 1 email and 1 physical invite that the one I got mail for was “more” formal

If both had some address for a house or state park I would maybe perceive entire event as informal but that’s just 1 opinion

in the south we are frequently decades behind so If your social circle has a different perception than you know that and can act accordingly

op asked for honesty and as usual some people are here to criticize anyone who does anything differently than what they have concluded is “right”...

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It's true we all have different perceptions of what's " acceptable or not" . This is why I decided to ask on this forum because I wanted individual opinions/reactions. It's helpful to me either way. I do also feel that its extremely unfortunate that there are these unwritten set of rules that MUST be followed in the wedding world and when you don't follow them you're perceived in a different (often negative) way.

cheap dress - that's unlady like.

fake flowers (or none at all) - tacky, everyone will know and fresh cut flowers are a must!

paperless - too informal people will show up in bathing suits!

Decide not to include your family in your wedding party - harsh, how could you love them and do that?

engaged for years - OMG, do you even really love one another?

nontraditional food at wedding ( pizza, bbq, etc) - abomination to the wedding industry , hoe dear you serve pizza to folks who may actually prefer pizza over mushrooms?

Man, I've seen all types of comments Re: wedding etiquette but it never bothers me, I'm still going to do what works for me but I do like to get opinions when I'm seriously contemplating an idea.