My fiancé and I are not planning on a very traditional wedding and have zero desire to have a ceremony in front of a lot of people. We both feel that our vows and the ceremony are for us and should be private. We do want to have a big party in our yard next year for all our friends and family though (once covid is less of a concern of course).
Since mentioning that early on, every single time we talk to or visit either of our mothers, they make some off hand remark about how they hope we didn't already get married without telling them! It's driving me nuts. My future mother in law called us both last week to just "check" that we really didn't get married yet. What the heck?! I don't get it. We are both not only children nor the first kids to get married...