Parental Permission: Modern or Traditional?

He asked both my parents for permission but it was really just a formality cause my mother had given him her blessing years ago

I would have preferred traditional, however, he asked me and then said he wanted to sit down and talk with my dad.... I know hes a guy backwards (lol)

Traditional, he drove 5+ hours and took my parents to dinner while I was on vacation in Hawaii with my girlfriends. I had no idea!

Modern for sure. Asking for the parents blessing is like asking to be granted ownership their daughter. So outdated and unnecessary.

Modern, We had been discussing getting married and so we didn't feel the need to have this big traditional asking. He didn't need to ask permission to marry me, I'm my own person and so is he.

FH was sort of traditional in this sense… My father lives in FL and is more of a friend than a "father figure" to me, so FH didn't ask for his "permission" or "blessing"; however, he did show my mom the ring on the morning he was going to propose, and she loved it and essentially gave him her "blessing".

Even though i'm going to be 50 soon, I think if my dad was still alive he would have asked him. He's sweet like that. I lost my mom in 1984, and my dad in 1987. Rob met my dad though, back when we dated in 1985, and my dad really liked him, so I feel like I have his blessing

Modern. My dad has told me since I was little that any guy who feels the need to ask for his permission to marry me was a guy I shouldn't marry. The only opinion that matters is the one of the two people getting married.

Modern. He took them to dinner, but more to give them a heads up and to show them the ring, he didn't ask permission.

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I definitely think that's the way to go! Include your parents and give them the heads up, but that's all you need!

My husband freaked out right before talking to my parents and asked me "what if they say no? that'd be awkward", and I told him "well I'd marry you anyway!" So he stuck to sharing the news and asked for their support!

Traditional. My fiance spoke with my parents and grandparents about a month before he proposed.

My FH called asked my parents permission! This was super important to my Dad, my brother in law never asked and my Dad was a little disappointed but got over it. I’m glad he asked, to me its a sign of respect.

I think it would've been strange seeing as I'm a 30 y/o woman and we've been living together for 3 years 😂

Traditional, no permission asked.

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I think it has its place in religious traditions though

View Quoted Comment Love this 😂 I so agree & would be kind of appalled if he thought of asking my parents before asking me lol

View Quoted Comment My dad was actually pretty upset by this and made it really clear at the dinner when we made the announcement so I told him the dowry he was offering must not have been satisfactory 🤷‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Ahaha 😂 you are hilarious lol. I love it! I mean it’s 2019 & women are independent, self-sufficient, contributing members of society, so this tradition needs to go away. I’m sure your dad will recover 🙂

My fiancé asked for my Dad’s permission. I am happy he did that!

My father passed away before I met my FH. But FH did ask my mom when he took me up to visit her and he met her for the first time, as if meeting her wasn't stressful enough. 🤣