Parents and in laws meeting each other

We had been together for 11 years. Our parents met.. We were incredibly awkward and nervous. I'm not sure why. Lol. They all behaved! Even saying this will be "" "the first of many" gatherings. Ahhh! No? Lol. Good luck.

I think it's a good idea to have them meet before the wedding. I arranged his parents to meet my parents at my parents' house which made it less awkward for me. On Sunday this weekend my parents are coming to his parents' (FH and I will be there too) for supper sof that'll be the 2nd time they've met.

View Quoted Comment Omg!! Were your parents/his parents awkward too? I’m so scared everyone will be awkward or that there will be a lot of awkward silences 😩

View Quoted Comment That’s so awesome!! How did everyone get along at the first meeting?

We had both sets of parents over to our house for dinner the first time they met. It wasn't awkward in the least. I think it helped that my dad is the type who never meets a stranger. We've all gotten together numerous times since, with our moms talking about wedding stuff and our dads talking about "guy" stuff.

Ours met at Thanksgiving while we were still dating and even yet living together! FH parents live far away so it was hard to arrange a random meeting/dinner and they wanted to visit anyway. My mom was so nice and offered to have them. Ultimately, I think my parents were more stressed than we were but with enough wine and a family board game with my sisters there made it not so bad. Now our moms are friendly and respectful but not super close or anything, which is great for us. Don’t sweat it!

OMG! So glad you posted this. Yesterday, my mother in law said that with less than 2 months to go until the wedding, his parents need to meet my parents. I'm SO nervous. We have been together almost 5 years and they're just now going to meet.

Today they're meeting up at the wedding venue to get to know each other. FH and I won't be there since we live out of state. Let's hope this goes well! They're meeting in a couple of hours 😬😬

View Quoted Comment It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. Everyone was kind and had good intentions so that helped. But my family was at the restaurant like 30 minutes after them because church let out really late and luckily they were so patient. My dad is really chatty so he wouldn't let any silence go by.

We talked about vacations, holidays, sports, jobs and we held it at a restaurant because we felt that would have more of an end time. But there was some awkwardness at payment time. My FH and I wanted to treat and split. Alpha dads had a hard time letting that go. But they ultimately allowed us to pay. But my dad was whispering about stealing the check and his dad before dinner said he was going up pay which stressed us out.

How are you guys engaged and they have never met! That blows my mind. We have both families over for BBQs and get togethers semi regularly. I wasn’t worried about them meeting as I had always felt kind they were similar. They hit it off and it makes family functions very fun! Good luck with the introductions! I’m sure it will be fine

We weren't nervous about it. Our parents met 5 months into our relationship a couple weeks before we got engaged at his son's birthday party. His parents talk about my mom often and how much they like her.

Ours met day of the wedding! You’ll be fine...don’t sweat it! 😉

Def let them meet before. It’s awkward but who cares !!! I am sure everyone will behave 🤪

I think it is less awkward to meet that way than to meet for the first time at the wedding.

It sounds like it’ll be awkward but I bet it’ll turn out not as bad as you think! My fiancé’s paeenrs and my parents ended up getting along pretty well! And my brother and his wife’s family were complete opposites but that dinner still went well. They were civil with each other for the sake of my brother and his now wife!

View Quoted Comment 1st meeting went great! I'm not worried at all about the 2nd meeting on Sunday. if your parents and FHs parents have ANYTHING in common then it'll be easy to start conversations.

Our parents met and a huge party his parents were throwing and it was a little awakward, but it didn’t last for long. I was never worried about it though and I don’t think you should stress too much either.

I was sooo stinkin nervous for FHs sweet soft spoken jesus loving dad to meet my sailor mouth, classic rock loving dad lol but they hit it off and FHs dad was sad he hadnt met my dad till their last day here in cali from Washington. Im sure all will go well!😊

My fiancé mI’m does not want to meet my dad and his wife before the wedding. We tried we just get Why ? We try to explain she still asks why.

I'm sure it will be fine! I'm actually shocked by this post and the comments that this is common lol. my parents met my fiances parents like 5 months into us dating.

View Quoted Comment Yes yes I second that. When my Aunt and uncle ask my dad who his family is. I would like him to know. Maybe they will go to rehearsal dinner.