Hi all! So I am recently engaged and have been beginning to think about some wedding planning. My FH and I are totally okay with a long engagement since we realistically cannot afford a wedding right now due to me having a year of grad school left. My parents are divorced and have offered to pay for the traditional “bride portion” of our wedding which we are SOO grateful for. My FH and I would like a traditional wedding with both of our families & friends invited vs going to the courthouse to get married. Since covid has weddings pretty back up, we have thought about booking a venue soon to get a date and then booking the rest after I graduate.
My dilemma is that I do not want drama with planning and have been fearful my parents aren’t going to be civil enough. They are very passive with each other and avoid speaking at all costs which is always super awkward and uncomfortable. (Basically they both need therapy bc they are still not over the divorce from over 14 years ago🙄) My mom has already been very opinionated with what she wants (for example: she doesn’t want my step mother invited to go wedding dress shopping with us). I’ve had conversations with her already and I expressed what I want & that my step mom will be invited regardless, etc.
I’m torn because as much as my FH and I would like a normal wedding, we don’t want to deal with any drama. We want to enjoy planning it and we don’t want our parents forcing their opinions since they are offering to pay. Part of us wants to say F**k it and elope somewhere when we are ready and that’s it. And then the other part of us is bummed because we would really love to have that normal wedding but we will never be able to afford one on our own because of our student debt when I graduate.
What would you personally do in this situation? Just looking for other opinions on this matter. We have plenty of time but just starting to think about things!
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