Parents entrance

Hello Marteea.
I know where you're coming from because my in-laws want to walk down the aisle, my partner said no because my parents are divorced, have a another partner and I don't want the partners to walk down the aisle so my parents won't do it . My future wife thinks it's all of them or none of them.

But we're not doing a grand entrance, we're not being introduced, though.

However: if you, your partner ,your mom and your in-laws think it wouldn't be a big deal and feel comfortable with this arrangement, it doesn't matter what everyone else thinks. If the idea of having your in-laws being announced but not your mom makes you and all parents happy, go for it.

I agree, do what makes you, and your in laws happy- it’s tradition to announce them!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! It’s definitely tough, don’t want to make my own mother feel left out but she’s the one who doesn’t want to do it!

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I think it would be okay as I was at a wedding once where the mom of the groom sort of slid and sat, lol, but the other parents came down the aisle. No one really noticed. Do want YOU guys want, and remember, it it is not the in laws day. And your mom is choosing this, you are not excluding her.

I think it's weird when parents are introduced at all. I would skip it completely.

Sounds like that decision would make everyone happy, mom bc she doesn’t have to walk, in laws because they get to...so anyone who is actually affected by the situation would be feel good about it, soooo...nothing else matters. If it’s a fear of how it would be perceived, that doesn’t matter. Most people don’t care, but if someone questions it, it’s a super simple straightforward answer. Not everything has to be even if even doesn’t work best for everyone. If you do the in law intro, I’d offer being included to your mom again very shortly before the wedding like “just making sure this is what you want, not too late to change” and if she holds fast to her opinion, don’t worry about it. She’s choosing to sit out, not getting left out.



Anecdote time: I ended up doing something weird with parents at my wedding bc I was having a major seating chart issue and there was a very simple solution to separate my parents. My married, very much in love parents...seated at different tables. I’m not gonna tell you separating them wasnt “weird” or unusual. Just that, it didn’t matter at all. We talked at length before doing it and they were both on board— they both got to sit with their preferred company: my mom with all her siblings and my dad with his and his best friends. So if anyone else thought it was weird...who cares? They didn’t mind it. Also, because of this, I wanted them still to be able to sit together, So put them at neighboring tables. I didn’t assign specific seats to anyone, but I wanted to guarantee they’d be able to be as close as possible (turn around and talk, hold hands, cuddle up at any special moment), so I assigned them specific seats at each table. THEN it seemed like to even things up, I should assign the seats within the table for husband’s mother so she didn’t feel left out of “parents having reserved seats” ....so I consulted her and she just laughed at me and said it didn’t matter at all.
Moral of the story: if it works for you and those actively involved? Don’t worry about anything else !!!

It is a tradition for the hosts ( other than the couple) to be introduced at the reception, often in the pre-dinner intro and other times as they enter. But many do not have a grand entrance for the couple, much less the parents, and you can pretty much do what you want. My MOB and MOG followed the countries they came from, different seating arrangement. They wanted to be first to enter, facing the center ( where some have side choir lofts) and since that suited both backgrounds, they did. They wanted to see the ceremony area all decorated, empty, then nod, wave, greeting guests. For all our guests not old enought to have seen it in this country, the only comment anyone made was that up front, B and G stand with one side toward officient, one side toward guests, and face each other. But in truth, if you took a poll 3 hours later, I doubt more than a few could say what the parents did. They pretty much did not care, as long as ño one did anything offensive. Just Not customary is fiespecially when it sounds like one set of parents would be happy to the announced, and the other be left alone. What seems wrong is if one of them is offended, but if not, do what you want. It does not have to be one does it, all must, for this or dancing.

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View Quoted Comment I get that too lol! Thank you!

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