I hate that I’m even writing this but I don’t know what else to do and I just need some advice here. First, I will start with the fact that I’m my FH and I are paying for our entire wedding with no assistance from anyone else. This was our choice because my parents (particularly my mom) made it a living hell when we were planning with her paying so we changed directions.
My parents are “loners”. They really don’t have many (if any??) friends. And they definitely keep to themselves. They have decided without even meeting my FH parents that they despise them and “everything they stand for”. My mom ran background checks on them and found some things she didn’t like and now they refuse to meet them. They agreed to be in the same room as them at ceremony + reception (and are acting like they are doing me a favor) but that is it. They will not do a bridal shower where in laws are present, will not get ready with me on wedding day if in laws are present, will not do rehearsal dinner, nothing. I am SO stressed because I feel like I’m put in a position where I constantly have to choose to either have my mom with me and intentionally leave out in laws, or in laws present and my parents refuse to be present. I don’t know what to do for planning a rehearsal or any other wedding stuff where it’s respectful to be inclusive and invite everyone.
Yes, I know my parents are being toxic. They are the only family I have aside from my siblings. I’m just really saddened by their behavior and there’s nothing I can do to change their mind. Any advice on how I can proceed with all of this stuff?
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