When I got engaged, my parents told me they’re giving me $ as a wedding gift (kind of like an early inheritance), and initially they said I can use it for the wedding or anything else I want (like down payment for a house). We decided to have a micro wedding to save $ and because we’re not big party people. My parents also insisted on paying for my wedding which I’m grateful for but I did put up a bit of a fight about in the beginning because my parents can be very overbearing and my fiancé and I just wanted to plan day the way we want.
The current issue is that my mom wants to have super expensive things like an open bar, real flowers, high end champagne, etc. She thinks she gets to decide because she is throwing me the wedding, but the way I see it is that any $ spent on the wedding is just coming out of the gift they’d be giving me, aka my down payment on my house or baby supplies.
I know I shouldn’t compare, but they’re giving my sister the same gift as me, plus about 50k for her big wedding. She chose to use her whole inheritance on her wedding.
Am I being spoiled by not wanting to splurge on these extra things for my wedding so I can use my gift for other things? And would it be rude to tell my mom the reason why I don’t want an open bar/other expensive things is because it will take away from my inheritance?
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