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Just Said Yes May 2021

Parents want us to delay honeymoon

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Laura, on March 11, 2021 at 10:22 PM

Hi Ladies -

I’m having a destination wedding in Savannah. Family is coming in Wednesday and Thursday and we are having the wedding Sunday night. We planned on leaving for our honeymoon but are getting so much pressure from my FH parents to delay our wedding for a week to stay with them. They are trying to tell us this is common but I do not believe so. We are spending Thursday to Monday with everyone which I think is plenty of time. More time than we would if we had the wedding in one of our parents cities. We chose Savannah as our family is scattered between three states. I have a serious career and don’t think it’s fair to have to work remote after getting married and delay a honeymoon. Thoughts!?

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Samantha · on March 12, 2021 at 2:30 PM
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Hahaah sometimes I think I’m too hangry when I respond!
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Melody · on March 12, 2021 at 2:43 PM
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If you want to go on your honeymoon, go on your honeymoon. I personally agree that after spending that much time with family you'll have absolutely earned some time alone to yourselves. This is also a case where if you give in now they're going to request or demand more from you later. Set this boundary line now and keep it.
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Willow · on March 12, 2021 at 6:31 PM
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The way your in laws are acting is almost creepily weird. Are they afraid they're never going to see their son again?

Whether you get to go on a honeymoon right after a wedding isn't "fair" or unfair. Fairness has nothing to do with it. Lots of people don't get honeymoons.
I think now is the time to start setting boundaries, or they'll be putting pressure you for every holiday, every special event. Go on your honeymoon.
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Judith · on March 13, 2021 at 2:40 PM
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Exactly this. Shortly before a friend's wedding, groom's mother was reassuring him ( but really herself) after a blowup between herself MOG and the Bride to be, "well just wait a few days until you are married, then things will be like they always are with Momma."
As though the disagreements had all been planning stress. And looking around, everyone there wanted to shake some sense into her. A lot of parents do not get it, that you as a couple, are now a complete and sovereign household, no longer dependants, or ruled by parents. If it has not happened before wedding planning , it needs to happen NOW.
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Michelle · on March 13, 2021 at 2:50 PM
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Yes boundaries are vital. If you don't set and maintain them now as a team, they will walk over you and dictate how you live your lives in the future.
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Barbara · on March 19, 2021 at 8:37 PM
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Consensus is...stand your ground, put boundaries in place...do what makes you and your husband happy...GO! Also, look behind you when you leave. Sounds like mother-in-law wouldn't rule out following you somewhere!
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