Parents won’t be attending wedding

It sounds as though you are on your way to a 'no-contact' with your parents. It's up to you to decide if that's what you want (while they get to decide if that's what they want). I would opt for no-contact, and it's very easy from here - just don't invite them.

If you do want them in your life, then you'll need to find a way to re-open the conversation. You could say something like, "I'm sorry with how I spoke to mom, and would love for you guys to attend the wedding." From there, maybe you can discuss how your frustration had been building for a while. Maybe suggest family counseling.

Myself, I'd go no-contact. There's no reason to have someone if your life who doesn't care about the most important thing in your life. But that's ultimately your choice.

It always hurts when family doesn't fully support your life and the choices you make but if they choose not to be there, you can still have a wonderful day. My FW's dad is very non-committal about attending our wedding. My bio mom is not invited. We were already planning to have our sons walk us down the aisle so we don't feel we're missing anything there. Maybe you have another family member that could fill in if you wish to be escorted. If not, rock that walk!!!! We are also not having any family specific dances, only our first dance. This way we can dance with whatever family is there and willing without putting a spotlight on who may be missing. You will have enough people there to love and support you, they can do bitter by themselves. Good luck to you!!!

I've dealt with this in my previous marriage. I let it go. They are missing the biggest day of your life. Other than having kids. Try talking to them face to face to express your concern. If that doesn't work, then don't worry. Ask a grandparent or your FH's father to walk you down the aisle.

I am sure there is more than meets the eye with this, it sounds very drama fueled. Drama from the gossip around the situation, about how you heard about it from your sister so its a bit second hand, about how you texted her so tone is very hard for your mom to judge. "So I told her how I felt. Everything" sounds like you have been holding all this in for a while and finally snapped and sent a long, angry text that was meant to be hurtful. Your mom hasn't had any chance to defend herself, and you didn't approach her asking, "Hey, I heard you said these things about me, can we address them? If you don't enjoy being in my childs life, that's a huge deal, and I would seriously reconsider the dynamic of our relationship." A big conversation like this may have been better to save until after the wedding since yours is so close, but if you needed to get it out now, it would have been better to sit down with her rather than text her. I would suggest you do sit her down before the wedding. It is a huge deal if your mom is going around behind your back complaining about you. But not something you two will never get over, it sounds very dramatic and saddening that she would say those things but with proper apologies and renewed attitudes moving forward I am sure the situation could be handled. With a young child in your life, I am sure she will come forward with an apology sooner than later, though I am sure she also feels she deserves one from your text. At the end of the day you will probably both be sad she missed the wedding over a spot of drama. Even though you might not agree with it and might think your text was fine to send, I would consider giving her a call (not a text) and saying "Hey, I'm sorry if you feel like I lashed out at you, I maybe said some things I shouldn't have, but I heard all of this gossip about how you don't enjoy your relationship with me and my son and it hurts me deeply to hear that. Even still, I shouldn't have reacted the way I did. Can we push this aside until after the wedding and discuss what to do from there? I don't want to be stressed out before my big day and I don't want you to be either. After the wedding we can sit down and talk about this, but I love you and want you at my wedding." Once again, we don't know everything going on, so I'm just making some assumptions based off of what you said, maybe this is a bit of a final straw and you never wanted her there anyways. I hope all goes well for you.

I agree. I would just say ok

First - I am very sorry for how your mother is behaving and that your father is enabling her. You do not deserve to be treated that way. Nor should you have to deal with that kind of stress leading up to your wedding.

Your parents sound a lot like mine. My mother is definitely a narcissist and my father is an enabler. I went no contact 7 years ago. And while sometimes it is difficult, I am thankful I cut the cord. And now that I am getting married, I am especially thankful bc I just know how my mother would have tried to take over my wedding and made the whole thing a freaking disaster.

My advice - don't give in. Do not respond to the petty and childish tactics. Do not let them see any emotion or feel that they are getting what they want. They don't want to attend? Fine. More cake for everyone else. And less stress for you.

I have no doubt you have people in your life who love and care about you. People who will step up and fill the gaps your parents created with their selfish behavior.

You WILL BE OK! I promise.

Stay strong!

Wow - it sounds as though there is more to the family dynamic, and what I mean by this is as follows: It sounds like there has always been discord or strained feelings and a wedding just brings it all to the surface. I am sorry about all this. Invite them if you haven't already, they won't come and that will be ON THEM. If you don't invite them they will make YOU look like the bad guy here. (Trust me I had a mom who was......well she has passed so why go there!) When people question where your parents are: "They chose not to come. Are you enjoying your dinner?"

I know it's really hard. you will definitely be getting a lot of questions about why your parents weren't there but honestly I think 99% of people will be in your corner about this. I think that no one should be at your wedding who doesn't want to be there because you will be able to tell they don't want to be there and it will cause you stress. Everyone wants their parents to be with them on their day, but you also don't want to be upset. Your wedding day is about you and your fiancé. What I would do is tell them that they are welcome to come if they change their mind and not address it again. That way you are the bigger person in this and it's on them if they regret it down the line. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

Oh my! While my kids were growing up, I looked forward to the day that I would be a grandma. I finally am and I could not imagine life without those precious little souls! They are my heart and soul. I can't understand why a mother would willingly choose to not attend her childs wedding, and I'm so sorry you are going through this. But, I honestly believe that your baby wold be better off not being around them if that is how they are. He will come to realize as he gets older how they feel and all it will do is hurt him.