Passive aggressive RSVPs

People kill me with this! You don't take your children to work and you certainly don't take them on every date you share with your spouse, so why do you try to force them on everyone else? Weddings are a family event and the host chooses what family to include. End of story.

This is my nightmare and I see it posted so often.....The only kids we are having at our wedding are our own. They will only be staying at the reception long enough to eat dinner and share 1 special dance with us. I so have mixed feelings about sending invitations. It's one thing to ask for clarification about who's invited, it's another to demand someone be included or to be a jerk about it...Try not to let it bother you. People can just be so self centered...

Wow! So rude!

Boo hoo.

Some people just HAVE to get their digs in.

Peace

"Oh, I'm not losing sleep over it. I'm just baffled at the need for a dig when they're declining. Are they trying to get people to dislike them?"

I am betting that they were hoping you would respond to the RSVP with "Oh, you can bring your little darling."

My bet is that they will be restless, on your wedding day, wishing they were there. Their loss.

How rude! Seriously find a babysitter for one night! Any other night they'd be dying to have somebody watch their child so they could have a night out...

What I don't get is the no children thing being such a big issue to parents. I have kids myself and would totally understand if me and FH names was only on the invite.

Yikes!

My son's children are 1 and almost 4, and I don't think they've ever had a babysitter other than my son's father or me. (The children go to daycare while their parents are at work, but not private babysitters.) So I would not be snarky when people decline to attend a wedding because their children are not invited.

At the same time, parents don't have a right to be snarky when they are invited somewhere without their kids. That's kind of like being invited somewhere for a chicken dinner, and being snarky because beef wasn't an option. You can graciously accept or decline the hospitality offered, but you have no right to snark because someone didn't offer you more.

I expect at least 1 rsvp like this. Inviting children added almost 50 people to our guest list (which is large anyways!). That was the easiest way to cut our list. I know at least 1 cousin and her husband won't come without their kids. We just figure, it's less people we have to pay for.