Pay or not to pay?

I think that's incredibly rude and tacky.

Then set up a gofundme. Absolutely DO NOT ask for payment.
I've heard of people registering for photography, cake, catering, etc and people on these boards blasted them. I thought it was a nice idea instead of asking for gifts because it was an experience everyone shared.
Good luck!

View Quoted Comment To me it depends on the situation of the couple. Example, there are couples out there that may encounter a tragic loss and in need assistance and they are wanting their special day to be magical and people in life ask go fund me all the time. Plus now in life we are forever evolving.

Our wedding is an event that my fiancée and I, as responsible adults, chose to host. It’s not anyone else’s responsibility to pay for it. It isn’t a charity. I honestly can’t imagine anything more tacky.

I'd definitely not do this! This comes across as gift-grabby and rude

View Quoted Comment That’s not evolving. It’s throwing a party that you can’t afford and expecting someone else to take care of it. Host the event that you can afford or postpone until you can afford the wedding you want.

Absolutely not. Host what you can afford. My fiancé and I waited 4 years after we got engaged until we felt comfortable enough to make the financial commitment of having the wedding we wanted. We never would’ve dreamed of asking our friends and family to pay to attend our wedding. Sounds crazy to me honestly.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the feedback. I seen this on a tv network and had mixed emotions surrounding it as well.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the feedback. I seen this on a tv network and had mixed emotions surrounding it as well.

Please do not ask your guests to pay for your event! This is really really awful and rude and tacky, and would probably not only offend people but would probably ruin many relationships long term. Idk if I would be able to move past this if someone did it to me, its just THAT offensive honestly.

Your wedding reception is supposed to be a “thank you” to your guests for attending the ceremony! If you’re asking them to pay, that defeats the purpose. There are A LOT of ways to cut down wedding costs other than billing your guests.

Plus your guests will end up giving you gifts that will be way more than $10 anyway, if you don’t ask for it!!!

Those who think I’m joking, here it is

https://youtu.be/nhes25q3u-e

I don’t think this would be appropriate under any circumstance.

I don't think you need to do that because they will likely give you gifts anyway or you can ask for cash fund in lieu of registry. But also like everyone said, weddings are supposed to be what you host and that invited guests are there to celebrate with you.

No. Just no. Guests are already paying for at least a gift (as well as other potential expenses including travel, clothing, childcare, etc). I’m sorry but to ask for money just to attend your party of your choosing is completely inappropriate.

Yeah, when FH and I go to a wedding, we usually gift around $200. If I got an invitation asking me to include $10 with my RSVP, I would be offended and throw that invitation and RSVP into the trash. You have the event you can afford. If you can't afford it, you do something small and have your dream wedding as a vow renewal in the future. I am not paying to attend someone's wedding, and being told to include $10 with the RSVP reads like I need to pay you for the invitation.

I believe under very very special circumstances a community coming together and offering any kind of support to take the financial strain off the wedded couple is a worthy cause. There are military couples who have valid reasons why they cannot wait another 2 years to get married. There are long term couples working with time restraints due to immigration issues who have to work within a certain time frame also. Why do they have to make HUGE sacrifices on their big day? Is it really fair to say it's courthouse or nothing to them? This has nothing to do with the article, granted. No, a vow renewal is not the same. It just isn't. If it was then we all would rush out the next week after getting engaged and get married.
There are so many of us budget brides who understand the meaning of inexpensive and also having to save up for over a year to make our day our way. So yes under some circumstances I can understand reaching out for support through a gofundme. Or even registering for wedding expenses.
I'm just throwing it out there.

View Quoted Comment I thank totally agree

That would be rude. No. Just no. Anyone who would consider that should elope. Guests do not fund a wedding. Period.

Have a wedding you can afford.

I’ve been invited to a party where they’re asking their guests to BYOB. Same concept.