Paying to go to someone else's wedding...

Um..........WAT.

I have seen and heard similar stories of couples choosing reception venues way out of budget and then charging the guests the per plate rate to attend! Crazy! Don't buy a gift, either!

No words...

Yeah ... NO

A couple at the church I grew up in did this for their wedding, had it on a boat and guest had to pay to go. ppl still talk negatively about it, because you don't even get your money's worth in what you spend on those things. the couple says they did it on purpose because they couldnt get the guest list down. w/e I guess. what kills me about your story is they didnt even pay for the wedding party? I mean like you asked me to be in the wedding you could spring for those ppl. I would have declined even being in the wedding.

There must be a lot of famous lawyers going, if they're charging...maybe its to cover autographs and photo ops!

/snark.

@KB we too have been invited to an engagement party where guest had to pay to get in. (we didn't attend). The really messed up thing is the couple had a FREE eparty (yeah never thought I would have to make that distinction when it comes to an eparty) at there house the same day but only immediate family and the wedding party was invited. Then they posted the pictures to social media of the FREE party in an album like "FAMILY ONLY ENGAGEMENT PARTY." Like so you wanted to make it clear to all the ppl you invited to pay to come to the other party at a fancy location, that the normal free party at your house was for family. No surprise this is the same couple that ran out of food at their actual reception. Some ppl care about how it looks more than being a good host.

The idea that you can't get your guest list down, so you need to charge for the party, is beyond ridiculous. Those people will be more offended by being asked to pay than by not being invited in the first place. The message you're sending them is that you don't really care about them celebrating with you, and that they are expected to pay for the privilege if they want to celebrate with you. I hope they end up with no one but the bridal party there.

I only have one request and that is for you to give us the follow-up to this story post-wedding.

I'm confused, did they not expect gifts? They would've gotten a lot more than $30.00 each person had they not even requested payment to attend their wedding.

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I have never seen anything like that. Is this a joke? And it looks like a newspaper clipping not an invitation

WTF??

WAT? I'm usually pretty open minded about tacky wedding things, but this? Just no.

It's not an issue of "we can't get the guest list down". It's an issue of "we won't get the guest list down." There is nothing wrong with having a beautiful wedding with 20 guests made up of your immediate family and closest friends. Extended family completely understand private, intimate weddings. The problem is that some couples want a huge audience on their wedding day -- even if they can't afford it. The decision to charge an entry fee at the door is so disgusting that I can't believe couples do it (and I can't believe guests actually attend these types of weddings).

I'm not really sure what is the case. Fh said he didn't invite any of their mutual friends and her dad is against it but that he gave her $5000 so maybe they used that for the honeymoon. Idk.

Did they also set up a PayPal account to make it more convenient for you to pay for their wedding? Or is it check only. I bet they have a cash bar too...

Wow! Huh?! Really?! Yikes!

I really want to know where that gall came from. It's like the mom that sent a bill to the kids that had to cancel their RSVP to a party. I just can't even.

I'm with @Laura Marie. That's probably what I would do. I just could never imagine charging people to come to a wedding. Are they still expecting gifts, too? Please keep us updated on this

ETA: I'm really not one to judge normally 'tacky' things. I don't mind people using Honeyfund or asking for gift cards as their gift. That kind of stuff really doesn't bother me or SO because we would rather give the couple what they want rather than guess. However, actually charging someone to attend a wedding is far beyond gift requests.

Mind...... blown