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I personally don't think it is acceptable to do that, it's "asking" for money in my mind. We got checks from people both before the wedding and at the wedding from people who wanted to give cash.

I have to agree with Amy and Brian on this one. Sorry but I think it's a big no no!

Ditto! and besides, the paypal button looks so tacky and i'm sure it will clash with the pretty colors of your website.

if you are adamant about the paypal option, my bm (who is getting married a month after me) recommends www.myregistry.com

this site offers a "give money" option. but as with all internet money options, your guests will pay a fee on top of the money they give you; which could mean them giving less to you to cover the charges...

I would have to agree with the other ladies. A Pay Pal option is not the way to go. I am not much of a fan of cash registries either, but that is me. I am old school. If people want to give you cash, they will put it in your card.

I've thought about doing this... but I think ultimately I will decide against it. My coworker actually asked me to put one up on our wedding site so she can give me money. lol

Sorry, there is absolutely no acceptable way to do this.

I don't think it's a great idea. Sorry.

Wow! I am impressed! I thought there was nothing wrong by adding Paypal, especially because will make it easier for people to deposit instead of giving a check or cash plus there are a lot of friends and relatives that are overseas (Peru) and that will want to just Paypal. Thank you all for the info!

For what it's worth....my FH agreed with you So you do have supporters.

Okay, so I just want to say that I was going to be the second to respond to your post, early early early today, but my phone wasn't letting me log on to comment, so here it goes:

1st I think that I'm with every one else, the PayPal button wouldn't look nice at all on your registry page!

2ndly I totally agree with you, with giving guests the option to deposit money for you to use, instead of buying you a present. BUT Paypal isn't the way to go. You need to let guests know in a different way that you want the cash instead of the present. You need to disguise it, so here are my alternatives for you:

Create a honeymoon registry: This way you still get the money, but your guests will be giving you the money in increments that will allow you to do certain things on your honeymoon. EX: www.travelersjoy.com

Create a Home registry: If you want to do the spending of the money on things for your home, you could also use this site, basically same concept. EX: www.depositagift.com

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Again, there are a ton of ways to ask for money without using the PayPal button, which is really tacky, and not personalized, and you're not letting the guests know what you're using it for. I would suggest using WW's REGISTRY page to check out all the different places to register, there you will find the ones I mentioned and more like it. www.ourwishingwell.com is also a good one!

I hope this helps . I didn't just want to post, "No! That's a bad idea and its tacky" .... this is a solution to your question! Good luck!

I think that there is nothing wrong with it at all!

I'm interested to know this as well, Amy. All the cash registries mentioned seem to have a 5-8% fee, verses PayPal which is between 0% and 2.9% depending on the method of payment. That's worth whatever embarrassment goes along with a PayPal button in my eyes.

If anyone knows 'how' to do this, please weigh in.

I disagree with most of the comments. I think that times have changed and considering most of us live with our partners long before marriage, there is no need for the traditional gifts. My fiance want to create memories and go on a honeymoon to somewhere we would otherwise never be able to afford to go to. The Honeymoon registries charge a lot to do the same thing that PayPal does. I do not believe it is tacky at all. I have no problem if some one asked me to do the same.

Totally disagree, a cash registry is completely acceptable. My fiance and I are in our forties, have to combine two households into one, don't have space for all our stuff already, and don't need any physical gifts. A cash registry seems to be the way to go. Also, seeing that WeddingWire features NewlyWish, which includes a Cash and Honeymoon option, I'd say even WeddingWire approves of a cash registry.

I don't agree my most opinions on the forum, it's your wedding and you probably don't want to have to worry about returning the 4 toasters and 8sets of dishes. Cash is easier for both parties involved, and it shouldn't be about pride.

This is an old post but still timely. And since no one has said "how" to do this yet, here ya go: build a blog on a free blog hosting site, upload an image - literally anything (flowers / a picture of your destination / a button that says "click me" in cursive font - whatever) and link the image to your personal PayPal.Me page. However you have set up your PayPal account (which should absolutely be the "friends and family" mode to avoid the service charge all together), guests will be directed to a simple page where they can enter any amount you wish. If you are worried that there isn't some Lee-made clip art that assigns some "activity" to every payment made, simply write on the blog page what you plan to do on your honeymoon. It's not like people will be like, "I don't think they will use this money for that because it's not being presented to me by money-skimming Honeyfund.com". They will gift you the money and think "cool! Can't wait to see their travel photos! So cute!" Unless you are inviting judgy relatives, and they will just do whatever they want anyway and look for more things to complain about. Everyone I know who has gotten married in **** has had a honeymoon fund - zero guests thought it was "rude or unacceptable" (granted these are all rational, hard-working people age 23-35, not money-wasting china-buying baby boomers who left us a terrible economy that requires us to politely and discreetly ask for honeymoon $ assistance from our friends.). Ignore people who think that poverty is "tacky". Do what you want. I did both! I registered for a few traditional but useful things that we didn't have because we don't live together (metal dinnerware, nice glasses, a high quality camp stove), in case boomers were put off by the paypal button (like seriously who really cares that the BUTTON does match your wedding colors?! Gmab), and had a page that details our honeymoon plans and provides both venmo and PayPal links for cash gifts. It's 2018. It's ok now.

This is an old post and yet still relevant today. I believe people's mindset have changed since 2011. Everything is digital now. All of our friends are on some type of social media platform and with the invent of ApplePay and the world at large moving forward a cashless society, many people would prefer the option of making a monetary gift payment on-line. It's just convenience. I will be using paypal. Me and my fiance have no problem with it so that's all that matters to me. Now, there is a way to go into the payment snippet or code and change the 'submit button' image to whatever you want. You don't have to use the standard paypal image. If anybody is interested you can email me at onehipsister[at]yahoo[dot]com.

View Quoted Comment I know your response is from a year ago, hopefully you still get this notification but I just wanted to say THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!! Personally I have no issues with a cash registry. My fiancé & I have lived together for a while - we literally have everything even down to an air fryer & pizza pizzazz. There is absolutely nothing to register for unless we choose pointless stuff we don’t need. But I wanted to create a digital option too and didn’t know how to go about it so I’m just sooooo happy I found your response! Screenshotted it & everything!

In my culture, we don't give gifts for weddings. We give cash. It's actually rude to bring gifts other than cash. For our first dance, we shower the bride and groom with money. So glad I don't have to deal with this "it's rude to ask for money" nonsense.