People asking to invite people after i said no.

Yes. And just keep your foot down. Do not give in! Half the time the same people that asked to attend are the same people that either don’t bother RSVPing or RSVP yes and then pull no call no shows.

View Quoted Comment Exactly because some may want to celebrate with us but there are some that I wouldn't even consider even to invite anyway. But we are sticking to our guns

View Quoted Comment I will use that and say we are at our max and that's that

Hi do not invite no one you don’t know to your wedding. It might cause problems you don’t need to impress no one and if he doesn’t agree with it then you don’t need to invite him as well he just wants to have people there with him and if it’s your wedding and you shouldn’t have to feel on comfortable to tell anyone know

I sympathize with you. A coworker I barely knew asked 20 times if he could come to my wedding to "see the ladies". Eww, eww, and also hell no. My mom is also insisting we invite her neighbors because "we have to invite them!" Why? Why do we have to? I barely know them. (My parents are allowing us to use their backyard as the venue so I will probably give in to this one)


Everyone seems to forget a wedding is not just a block party or family reunion, there's literally only so much space and money to host this. Just keep saying no!

No pay no say.

Yeah girl! Everyone thinks they should be allowed a plus 1 to your wedding a bf they just started dating a few days ago 🤦🏻‍♀️. Ugh yeah stick to what you want who cares if feelings are hurt. If they don’t want to come they can stay home.

Same here, do people get back with exes so they will have a date to weddings. Lol my FH sister and brother are both back with there's and they both asked if they could bring them. We said no to both of them. His sister called just today and acted like she doesn't know what the word no means, asking several times in the same conversation. We have never even met him from the first time they dated.. Our wedding is in 4 days.

We have had to cut our guest list a few times. So there is ACTUAL family that we’d love to have attend but had to cut the list. When my FH asked a cousin if they’d be bringing their child (so we could add to the list) we were told “no, but can I bring my boyfriend in his place?” ?!?!?! Like what! Some people have no idea what a wedding cost. Everything is per person! Food & drinks. That was a hard no for us. Child’s per person price is much less than that of an adult for food & drink. Yeah, I’d like everyone to have someone there so they can feel comfortable and have the best time. But it’s not a birthday party. You know? This is $$ and planning. & we actually are cutting the list of people we’d love to have there. You think we want her boyfriend whom we never met to come in their place?

Nah you’re not the only one. My mom continues again and again to invite people to the wedding. She’s even gone so far as to invite them herself and not tell me. You’re doing the right thing. Just hold strong

This sounds kind of like what we went through with my dad and stepmom. His stepmom really doesn't like to travel, so when they gave us their list of names, we literally didn't know half the names on it! They wanted us to invite her two brothers, only one of whom I've met, and my fiance has only met her other brother once; all of their kids, friends of theirs who we'd never met, and distant cousins my fiance had lost touch with a long, long time ago. We ended up inviting them just to get his family off our backs, and in the end, they all declined, but in your brother's case, I'd put my foot down. Tell him you don't know those people and that you can't spare any more space. Best of luck.

Wow! That’s crazy demanding of them. I did put my foot down and he hasn’t said anything after.

I’m glad I’m not the only one dealing with this. I also had my mom plan the bridal party and she’s inviting guys to it! That was a while ago and that got completely canceled. I was supposed to get married last April.

No, thank goosness. They know my respinse won't be as polite as yours lol

View Quoted Comment We now have decided just to invite 30- 45 ppl that's it because once someone finds out then they asking. Its enough that my kids having families. So I have to minimize down that because some venue spaces don't allow younger children. Because of breakage and alchohol reasons

View Quoted Comment And I understand why you are saying it now ppl find out that we are abd are asking to come now we have decided to scale down. Prices are crazy just for 1 day. It was be memorable because of who I am marrying

SO much relate to what you’re going through. & I’m sorry you’re going thru this as well. I had this and a plethora of honestly other negative/stressful events/situations as well when I was planning our wedding on top of the usual/normal stress when planning and especially when also paying for your own wedding week/wedding day. (All done on our own I might add. Didn’t even have a day-of coordinator. Which I regret. It definitely was a wild ride 😂)
so many people tried to invite other people and so on. Even people close to me that I thought I trusted. Like my mom etc. I love them all and yeah I would’ve liked to have seen say my third cousin I haven’t seen since like I was about 10 or so. However we were on a tight budget and we couldn’t go over a certain amount. Not only that but it’s your day regardless of budget. Set boundaries and stick to them. Just like in life. This also applies to your wedding day.
There are plenty of examples on Pinterest wedding planning sites etc that show how to word things such as this. I’m rather open and I know I could word things better. But I was and have always been just brutally honest. Especially when it came to my wedding day. 😂 I would say we don’t have enough in our budget I’m sorry or our venue will only hold so many guests unfortunately and when I got pushed enough (especially by my mom) I’d say “are you paying for their meal, their table, their chair/s etc???” “Because we aren’t because we can’t afford it”. 🤣 can be harsh but it’s all the truth. It’s your special day and whatever makes you and your soon to be Spouse the happiest is what should be/needs to be done and everyone else will either have to roll with it or don’t go. It’s all good though. Everything has a way of always working out. And “theyll get happy in the same pants they got upset in.” 😂 🥂