People thinking they are invited to the wedding

I totally get it!!

I feel like everyone expects an invitation, and I haven't even spoken to some of these people in over 10 years.

I just say "It's going..." then I change the subject.

Yes! It is weirdly irritating when people ask how planning is going. I find that most people are either fishing for information or just want to offer their opinions. It's definitely turning this gossip queen into a serious secret keeper.

My biggest pet peeve! Sorry not sorry that my second cousin that I last saw when I was 4 is not invited 🤷‍♀️

I have random “family members” comment on my stuff and say “don’t forget me I’m your family too!”
Like first of all, I haven’t seen you in years. My wedding is not the day for me to let you come and eat and party for free at my expense. To an extent tbh that’s how I think ppl look at it. Oh wedding! Let’s make myself relevant and invite myself. *eyeroll*
because of this we’re having our wedding thousands of miles from home. Because I know the inconvenience will make a lot of ppl not want to come and I can be like oh it was a destination wedding, we kept it small and personal LOL

Yes I hate when people ask how’s the wedding planning going..makes it even more stressful because I don’t think anyone really knows what really goes into planning a wedding down to every single detail. It ain’t easy!!

Ugh I hate that question, what do they want to know? Yeah we have spent $XX,000 amount of dollars, I hate talking on the phone to vendors, and we could really use cash as a present. Probably not.

Is it not considered small talk to ask how wedding planning is going? I asked my coworker because I was genuinely excited for her. I don't see it as any different from asking how was your birthday?

Ughhh yes girl yes! Btwn ppl inviting themselves, their significant others, or their kids! It’s all just frustrating. Like my wedding my choices don't impose. And sometimes I like when ppl ask how the planning is going sometimes I don’t. Depends if the person is being genuine about it and if I want to share with them. Some care some are just nosey!!

I’m almost under 100 days to the wedding and I’m sick of talking about it, haha. I understand that people are excited about it, and I am too, but I’m honestly ready to be done with it all and go back to a “normal” life, lol.

I definitely get it! I have had coworkers ask about all of the details including venue when they aren't invited.. thankfully so far nobody has assumed they are invited. I have had people assume they will get a plus one when they won't (it's still too early for save the dates). Indo like talking about it with my friends though lol

I do* like talking about it with my friends

I try to not let it get to me when people ask about how planning is going but it does bother me! I know they mean well but I’ve been so stressed about wedding planning lately, and I get asked about it multiple times a day at work! Whenever I talk about what I’m working on, they start asking questions like “we’ll have you done x yet” or “what about y”.

he people that bother me the least about it are my married coworkers, coincidentally.

ALL. THE. TIME! I have two co-workers who constantly ask me how planning is going. One asks just so she can complain about "everything" that went wrong at her wedding (our wedding will be at the same venue that her reception was held). The other has just assumed that I was inviting her even though we don't get along very well.

Me too! It makes me PISSED when people ask about planning lmao 🤣🤣 but then again I'm trying to lose a lot of weight, fh is 0 help, my family is stressing me out, financially it ain't the greatest time, etc etc 🤣

View Quoted Comment Haha, these are legit great replies that will get them to stop asking 🤣

I had something similar like that happened with a classmate at my floral design stuff, we talked about things. Just let it roll off your back and keep planning. Stop sharing info. The more you share, the more you hype people up about it. Keep the planning details between you, your FI, any family and friends that are helping and your vendors. Indulging people’s curiosity may feel cool because it makes you the center of attention, the flip side is the more they know the more they want that invitation. Keep it on need to know only.

Why do people assume their kids are invited? Like, they probably are, but I dunno at this point...I am just going with it for now bc we're still a year away and I really dont care because most of the kids will be old enough that it'll be fine, but 45 bucks for frozen chicken tenders and applesauce, really?!? Also, if we change our minds it'll be super awkward later, but I don't have anyone that won't come cuz of it, so for us it's def a know your crowd thing.

I get it! So frustrating. My aunt recently posted a comment on a non wedding related pic on FB that she’s HASNT gotten an invite for my wedding but it MUST be in the mail and she can’t wait... talk about an awkward conversation after.

Wedding invites- OH DEAR GOD YES!
I have been trying to figure out incentive, yet tactful, ways of saying"HellllllNope" to people who are casual acquaintances or Facebook only friends. Then to FH family who think the kids- soooooo not well behaved & Not coming, as it is an 18+ wedding and our venue is, oh yeah!, a Casino/Resort and asked us to (try) not have kids. Wedding party is excluded from that tho.
I have a bunch of people I'd love to incite, but not sure how many I can- given that we are trying to stay at 150, to 200 Tops!, and FH guest list side is HUGE! after you add in all the plus ones. Good thing I don't have much family & only a few close friends! Lol

As far as the wedding planning question. It truly depends on who's asking. His "darling"22yo daughter is like nails on a chalk board, the neighbor is ehh, my Aunt is sure this & this&this.... lol.. I only really get annoyed when they want the mini details. I'm like "NOPE! See it AT the wedding!", my mom and 21yo son are different tho and are helping me do A lot of DIY stuff and so they know it all as well as I do. Plus that way I don't have a "Oh crap! What did I forget?!" moment on something crucial.

LOL so true! Everyone assumes an invitation is coming and all of the sudden everyone is excited to hear all about it. I personally didn’t get irritated if someone asked me expect if is a person that I was not inviting... lol like how awk.