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While I have not gone through it myself just remember you are stronger than you think you are and while fear is absolutely a normal and a valid feeling do not let it stop you from living your life. Plan your wedding and live your best list. Wishing you all the best.

View Quoted Comment Thank you very much! Taking the time to respond your kind words of encouragement means a lot to me. ❤️

I haven't been through it myself but I have a close family member who went through something similar. It's important to live your life following your recovery, and it's OK to plan for the future. In fact, I think it's a good and healing thing, fwiw.

Congrats on your remission and my best wishes for continued good health!

View Quoted Comment Thank you very much!! ❤️❤️

Do not fear! You are healthy and cancer free right now! Don’t let that past cancer ruin the rest of your life. Break free of those chains and BELIEVE!

I have not been through this, but felt compelled to respond. I lost my partner of 8 years to cancer a few years ago. We lived an incredible life together. He told me that his only regret was not marrying me. We sort of waited for the "right time" when he would be healthier, but that never came.

After facing cancer, it can be incredibly difficult to put yourself in the mindset of thinking about the future. I wasn't the one who had cancer, but losing him still often makes it difficult for me to plan for the future. But, you are in remission. This is an INCREDIBLE thing. Your fear of the cancer coming back is completely valid, but I urge you to plan anyway. And plan the wedding you want. Life is short. Whether it is cancer that comes back from remission, or other ailments or accidents, none of us know what will happen to us in the future. We can let that fear of the unknown stifle us, and on some days it will. But we can also use this knowledge to truly live in the moment and live the life we want with the people we love. Take stock in all that you have right now. Allow yourself to enjoy being cancer free. Allow yourself to plan the incredible destination wedding you desire.

Congratulations on your engagement, and your remission. I hope you have a beautiful wedding.

View Quoted Comment I am at a loss for words and tears are in my eyes. Thank you so much for your incredible comment. I am truly very sorry for your loss. You have an amazing outlook on life and I appreciate you shedding your positivity and light on me. I feel strong and confident that I will have the best wedding ever. ❤️ thank you again!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! 💪💪💪 ❤️❤️

I have not been what you have been through, but my younger brother (18) has been battling cancer for 5 years. I think it is extremely normal to have moments of stress and doubt and worry about where you will be in X years, but my younger brother always reminds me that he isn't going to live in fear or worry of his cancer. He's making college plans and career goals and says that it fulfills his heart and mind and that is what is the most important! If planning the wedding brings you peace and happiness, go for it! Not a single person knows where their future is going to take them, so don't live cautiously because of that.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely! I'm proud of your brother for having such an amazing outlook on life. He's an inspiration for sure! Thank you for your kind words 😊 the wonderful comments on here are definitely helping me feel better about planning for the future! ❤️

Like others, I have not been through this myself, but I work with cancer patients and survivors. A few thoughts:

1) Congratulations on your remission!

2) None of us knows what tomorrow brings. It may be that cancer (or a car accident or a pandemic or something that no one can even imagine right now) will derail your plans, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't make them.

3) Be kind to yourself. You have been through a lot and I know many people who have found remission harder mentally than actually going through treatment. When you're in treatment you have something to fight and everyone is pulling together to provide resources for you. Once treatment is over, you live in some level of fear of the cancer returning, but everyone expects you to just be grateful and move on. A survivor's group may be a good place to articulate some of these fears and receive the support you need.

Wishing you all the best during this exciting but potentially fraught time.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! You are 100% correct! I never think of that fact that literally anything could happen. I remember when everything was over I was sad because I was like ....ok this is my life now. Here we go. I appreciate your response! ❤️❤️