I got engaged last month, yay! Now real life problems have begun to kick in...
It seems like there are a few posts on here about this very issue of being in graduate school and planning a wedding. My FH and I decided last year that Sept 2019 would be a good time for us to get married because I would have advanced to candidacy and would be less busy with didactic classes and will be working on my dissertation which could take up to 3.5 more years. My expected graduation date is June 2021 (tentative). As a PhD student, I teach or am funded as a student researcher each quarter, but only make a small amount a month. After bills on rent and my car, I have roughly $700 left to spend on food and household things per month. I was planning on cutting down on eating out and buying things I may not need....being more frugal, but it's hard. I was planning on saving $500 a month till our wedding for the wedding but I feel like it's not enough. My FH makes much more than me per year and has some money in his savings for our wedding, but I feel guilty about not being able to contribute much to the wedding fund. Since we're having a traditional Asian wedding, we expect to breakeven from gifts and such. But I still feel guilty.
I have the option of moving out of my apartment and back to my parents house which would help me save 40% of my income per month but I am hesitant because i have never lived with them while in college or in grad school. It will be a very difficult transition. Moving in with my FH is out of the question because we have conservative cultural values. I am also considering getting another flexible part time job to make some additional income. I know people do it, but I honestly don't even know what I would do in my field since I don't have a master's degree. It's all sorts of complicated.
Any thoughts or advice on what to do while struggling financially and wanting to are the wedding work? Are there any other PhD students out there that have made it happen within 1.5 years? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks?
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