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Michelle
Rockstar December 2022

Physical registry vs cash

Michelle, on November 10, 2021 at 1:06 PM Posted in Registry 0 11
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What is common among your families and friend groups? What are you planning to go with?


For example, even if someone has been together for years, they still can use upgrades because they may have mismatched items or you can always use a second set of sheets or towels. There was also a wedding Instagram post not long ago that said: Look at a wedding registry as a wishlist of things you want that you wouldn’t spend your own money on. Something interesting I read online is someone said “we don’t believe in the idea of registries and we don’t want anything but we plan to use the cash we get on a blender or toaster we do want” so why not let the guests gift you those things in the first place instead of an engraved item they will give and the couple will toss out discretely as their backup gift without any other guidance? In alot of circles, cash is not even on the table as a gift option. On the flip side, there are circles where physical gifts are immediately tossed out and considered taboo, up to the point where some people say they will not allow or accept them. It’s not very often that those circles intermingle.


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Latest activity by Emilia, on November 13, 2021 at 3:41 PM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    For us it is definitely cash! but if i see someone has a physical registry though i'll definitely get them something off that.

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  • Jessi
    Super October 2022
    Jessi ·
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    When we go to weddings and I believe what is pretty common in our circle, is to bring cash to the actual wedding, but give a gift only if I am (or we are) invited to a shower. We have even shipped shower gifts to out of state friends when we weren't able to make the event.

    We're having a registry which is a mix of some house upgrades we need after 6 years together and some things we probably wouldn't end up spending our own money on unless necessary.

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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    This is what is commonly done in my circle as well. Most people I know give a cash gift at the wedding, and physical gift at the bridal shower (if invited to one).
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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
    Cece ·
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    Cash is king in our circle also. There is rarely a physical gift brought to any of the weddings I’ve attended in years (usually the only ones giving gifts are elderly family members). If a couple has a registry, people may purchase them gift cards from that store, but usually never physical items. As you mentioned, physical gifts are usually given at showers.


    FH and I will not be creating a registry. I know people say you can register for upgrades, but tbh when something needs upgraded in our house we just go out and get it. Without a registry, we assume people will either gift cash or gift cards, or not gift at all (which we are completely fine with). Everyone is traveling for our wedding, so I don’t foresee people wanting to lug gifts with them anyway.
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  • S
    Super September 2022
    Sarah ·
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    For shower I 100% agree with you on a physical registry to upgrade household items. We have tons of mismatched stuff! Plus if we didn’t register our guests would probably buy us something we don’t want.


    But for the actual wedding I always give cash. I don’t think they want to carry a bunch of gifts home or to their hotel on their wedding night.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    That definitely makes sense. Often when the couple has a physical registry that guests use for the wedding itself and a full gift table and barely any cards, there is always one relative gathering gifts to take home (to their own home or the couple’s) so the couple can open them at a party the next day or on return from the honeymoon. In those cases, a physical gift is given at both shower and wedding. Obviously every group is different.
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  • mrswinteriscoming
    VIP December 2021
    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    In our circles (and in my culture) cash is predominantly given because our intention is generally to offset the cost of our attendance so that the couple aren’t out of pocket for us to attend their wedding (of course this is all based on gues-timates and is never 100% guaranteed).

    We ourselves are having a wishing well (and will return physical gifts because we literally don’t need anything / have no storage space) and love when others have wishing wells, particularly because of the convenience of them.

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  • devotedlydavis
    Expert March 2022
    devotedlydavis ·
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    Registries are super common here, but we aren’t doing anything because we have no room for anything else since we’ve combined our two households.


    For my shower they are doing a “home for the holidays” themed where everyone brings holiday decor, for the holiday of their choosing. Someone else I know did this and they got stuff for July 4, national pancake day, etc. so I’m hoping it will be fun.
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  • Samantha
    Super August 2022
    Samantha ·
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    In our circles it's considered inconsiderate to bring a physical gift to the wedding as now the bride and groom have another thing to worry about cleaning up and transporting. Either bring the physical gift to the shower or ship it ahead of time(online registries are a modern marvel and you will not convince me otherwise), or bring cash/checks to the wedding.

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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
    CountryBride ·
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    We would prefer Cash we have most of anything we could need and or use

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  • Emilia
    Super June 2019
    Emilia ·
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    All around me all the couples almost forbid to they guests to buy gifts... they want MONEYYYY $$$$$$ ;-) Cash is the most welcome ;-)

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